Would you get rid of your wedding dress after leaving abusive marriage?

I don't want my daughter to wear it because I think it would be bad luck. It was a miserable 14 years of hell with him. I don't want it because I don't want to be reminded of my wedding or marriage with him. I have no sentimental attachment to it either. Should I just give it to a resale shop or throw it away. It is a gorgeous sparkly beautiful dress. Or do you think I'd be giving bad karma to a stranger?Would you get rid of your wedding dress after leaving abusive marriage?
hi sweetheart we have something in common ....a abusive marriage i was in that one for 22years and well and truley out of it now and divorced ....woohoo !!i got rid of my wedding ring engagement and erternity rings as i did not want to see them or keep them as like you they were not good reminders of what i'd been through ,and they could bring someone together and have a great marriage ....its not the rings that caused the abuse it was that slimball i so stupidly married that caused all the hurt and pain ,so as regards to youre wedding dress think about it this way it could make a future bride a very happy lady on her wedding day ,and it wouldnt be the dress that caused the hurt ....if it had been the dresses fault you would have got rid of it years ago unfortunatley it was the men we decided to marry that caused all our hurt and unhappiness so stop worrying ,and as for youre daughter when her day comes to get married you and her will be able to looking for a beautiful dress for her ...what a nice thought for the future for you both .....take care and dont worry xxWould you get rid of your wedding dress after leaving abusive marriage?
the dress itself - is simply the coming together of material, sparkley stuff and a sewing machine. It is a thing. You have been through enough trauma and abuse. Please don't turn yourself inside out worrying that all the hell you've been through will transfer to whoever buys it in a charity shop.





If you want to - throw it away. It will be recycled. Turned into something new and beautiful





get rid of the dress - don't let him and the memory of him continue to control you












If you want to answer bad karma with good karma, donate it to Brides Against Breast Cancer. They take donations of new and used wedding dresses that they then resell in gown sales held all over the country and all of the proceeds benefit the Making Memories foundation (kind of like Make a Wish but for people with breast cancer). It is a wonderful organization and you could feel good knowing the sale of your gown would be used for a very worthwhile cause!
I actually have a girlfriend who had a ';burn the dress'; party to celebrate


her engagement to her fiance once her divorce was final. It was a great


party! Her old wedding dress was soaked in lighter fluid and put in


a large tub and burned-then we all had a great cookout!


Don't pass it on-get rid of it.


P.S. She is happily married today- 6 years after her ';burn the dress


party';.
I wouldn't keep it in the family but I wouldn't destroy it unless it will make you feel better. Would it be a kind of catharsis for you to burn it or rip it to shreds? If so then by all means...burn, baby, burn. If that won't help you feel better then give it to charity( bad luck from a dress will not make an abuser) so someone else can have a beautiful wedding day. You'll make the right decision...Many blessings and congratulations on your weight loss ( a whole jerk, huh ;)
I do believe in Karma -- but people have Karma, clothes don't. The bad is in your Ex, not your dress. If you don't like it, I'd suggest you get rid of it whatever way you want. If you donate it, you're not going to 'jinx' the next woman married in it (unless she marries your Ex...just a joke).





Personally, I'd donate it. I think the bad Karma follows the person (as in, your Ex-husband) not the dress.





Good luck!
I still have mine and it still had the dirt and hay one it (reception on our ranch and i had to feed the horses LOL) Mine is in a box, squished, i planned on burning it in one of our bonfires...thanks for the reminder i will have to get that done.


Put it away for a while and then decide what you want to do with it...I know burning mine will make my mother cry, she spent a fortune on the thing. My sister did use my tiara and veil, she has a wonderful marriage hasnt cursed it.
Sell it and with the money buy something for your daughter maybe as a present for when she gets married.Try selling it on ebay or you could try those resale shops.You wont be giving bad karma to anyone. Some marraiges work some don't but it's nothing to do with what dress your wore on your wedding day
Yes. There is no need to hold on to that reminder of someone who has hurt you so much. I'm so sorry to hear that you had to go through something so painful, but it does sound like you are very strong. I remember seeing some craigslists postings from an artist who wanted women's wedding gowns...so that he/she could destroy them...and make them into some kind of art. I'm thinking about doing that with mine...well at least rip it to shreds.haha
yes burn the dress
Just bin it.....if its causing you nothing but grief looking at it and you don't want someone else to have it then lob it!
YES!
I would burn it!
yeah i would get rid of it.. not to anyone in the family.. i dont think u would give bad karma to someone else