Marriage??

So I'm 13 and I realise I'm too young to know everything,but what's the point in marriage? It seems like so many young women are obsessed with marriage and kids and stuff, but why? How is it different than just living with someone and even having kids and stuff? That way when they break up their isn't a whole legal mess? Please provide some insight! Why do people insist on marriage when it's completely inconvient and is really just .... a technicalityMarriage??
You make some good points....young women tend to romantasize the whole thing, and they don't think farther than the pretty white dress %26amp; reception....they forget that marriage is also arguments, mortgage payments and diaper changes...but they're young and allowed the fantasy. If they knew what hard work it really was, no one would get hitched! LOL. A marriage isn't only a legal bond...it's also an emotional committment. You might not understand it until you're married yourself some day. Once you sign on the dotted line, most people give the relationship much more effort...probably in order to avoid the mess and expense of a divorce or hurting the children. Marriage is a vow...and some take vows much more seriously than a promise to be ';true'; to a partner, hence extra effort to keep things together. Solving problems and riding out rough times together makes the bond stronger, theres no doubt about that. Yes, all this can be acheived by living together without a marriage licence, but some want to take that extra step before god, family and friends...to them it makes it special...and somewhat ';blessed';. Marriage certainly isn't for everyone, but I think you might find that when/if you do find ';the one';, that you both might be walking up the aisle not only for legal reasons, but moreso for matters of the heart. It's a personal choice and one that shouldn't be ever taken lightly. Marriage is work....but isn't everything worthwhile usually gained through hard work?Marriage??
The ';legal mess'; ensues not because people are married. Dissolution of marriage is one of the easiest things to accomplish. The ';mess'; comes with sorting out belongings, finances, kids' custody - which - guess what - you would have to deal with whether you were married or ';just living together and stuff';. You don't have to be married to disagree on what belongs to whom and how the visitation should be handled. People are ';obsessed'; with getting married because marriage is what society currently recognizes as an ';official'; way of saying ';we are a couple';. We are also ';obsessed'; with having our driver's licenses, college diplomas, social security cards, etc. If you don't have a social security number, of course it doesn't make you any less of a person; but if you live in a country where everything is built around this number, it will be very hard for you to get even most basic stuff done. Same with marriage - the society hands you the benefits only when you agree to ';play by the rules';; marriage offers legal rights and protections backed by the society itself. There's nothing wrong with choosing to simply live together - it doesn't invalidate your relationship. You will just have to take care of some stuff on your own and make sure your interests are protected, whereas marriage does it for you automatically.
The thing about marriage is that people today have destroyed it's meaning. The purpose of marriage is for a man and a woman to come together and create a family, to leave something behind from their life that betters their children's lives. I am sure a lot of people are going to get pissed at me for this comment, but a woman's place (and I am a woman) is beside her husband and with her children. Feminism and all this crap shoved down our throats from birth have ruined family values and is the reason we live in such a f ed up world. It is different from just living with someone and having kids because there is a spiritual bond that is supposed to be there that makes your family yours, it gives you something to live and to die for. And then you say ';that way when they break up there isn't a whole legal mess?';, that is why people get married, cause there is no breakup. And to make it that much easier for a man or woman to abandon their family is disgusting. People do it enough through legal means, they don't need the ability to just turn their backs as well. Family values have been trampled on by this kind of thinking, and I don't blame you, I blame our society that has allowed our children to grow up thinking this way. Marriage is supposed to be sacred, it is now a joke!
Marriage is nothing but a social construct. It is just a piece of paper. Look at Oprah, she is unmarried and had been with her ';man';friend, Stedman for over 20 years (I'm exaggerating).





I am married. But there is no difference between now and then when we were just living together. Except that we all share the same last name. It is your decision alone. But marriage has its pros and cons. Some say it had more pros, some will argue that it has more cons. It is a legal binding commitment, but just because someone does not have that marriage certificate does not make them any less committed in a relationship.
youre much too young to understand this but basically if you're just living together and something happens you're prob gonna leave but if you're married you're gonna stay and try to work it out........marriage is better because it helps you better yourself. if you're just living together you're not gonna go through too much to make it work and so then you go mess up with someone else. but im sure you still dont understand and thats why 13 years old arent allowed to get married or move in with their bf.
Some people see it as a quick fix to a sudden prenancy, or failing relationship. A lot of people get married for the wrong reasons. But there are some people that get married for the right ones. If you truly love the person you commit to each other and promise your life with them. That is the purpose, to promise to be faithful and loving as long as your are alive. Many people can not keep that promise.
Marriage is about committment. It's about putting your money, assets, time all on the line (legally speaking) because you are pledging yourself to another person, you are creating a life together. If you go into it already believing it will fail, then it probably will fail.
People insist on getting married because it's a symbol of ';serious'; commitment. And sometimes the legalities of a marriage actually benefits both parties because it's a good way to separate assets when a couple breaks up.
You are RIGHT!








You don't know everything!








Your view on marriage will change as will it on many subjects as you get older and experience life!
you are funny, and still a child. It's ok to have that mentality now. It will change as you mature.
you should be concentrating on having fun and school