Why do people think marriage is so disposable these days?

When did marriage become so disposable? As soon as trouble comes along people these days cannot resist temptation to cheat and/or they give it all up, and aren't willing to work it out. Unless your spouse cheats or is abusive to you, why not work it out?Why do people think marriage is so disposable these days?
lol, Idk but it must be fun, I'd never marry without a prenub...Why do people think marriage is so disposable these days?
Because working it out requires time and effort. With people already running on empty due to work stresses, finances, etc, they simply don't have the time or energy to spend fixing a failing marriage. The world is faster paced and more demanding than it was a couple generations back.





Also, with women being in the workplace more nowadays, they aren't chained to the marriage like they were in the past. Before women entered the workplace in full force, if their husband decided to leave them they were left in a horrible position. They were literally stuck in the marriage.





Now they have the option to leave and support themselves, so they don't have to put up with a bad husband. I think men are still getting used to that, though not quite fast enough.
We live in a world where everything is disposable. We want quick, magic cures to all our ills; hence an inappropriate marriage in the first instance and a divorce in the second.





That said, an alternative answer would be that we are much less concerrned with maintaining appearances and more concerned with being happy. Years ago, divorce had a serious social stigma, and many people stayed together only for that reason. But society has changed and now we stay together because we want to - if we want to - and not because we feel we have to. You be the judge which is the better situation.
Because there is one thing that ruins many marriages--money is valued more than the spouse.





I'd have to say marriage is disposable because marriages are made up of individuals who have settled for the wrong type of person. Perhaps they both became sexually infatuated with each other too early on when dating and emphasized that more than building a relationship through COMMUNICATION. And also couples don't sit down and have a few serious pre-marital conversation about what they want out of their marriage...and even more important...they don't discuss what they want THEIR PARTNERS to get out of the marriage. It's all about ';me, me, me'; when it should be about ';my partner and us.';


Think about it...If you selflessly care for your partner, and they selflessly care about you.....then both people will develop and maintain a deep connection, and both people are still getting 'cared' for.





I think marriages might also fail because a mutual amount of respect is not held by both partners. Two people will never agree on everything.





Overall, a lack communication destroys marriages, and doesn't make them exciting or fun.





Last thing...I think keeping things ';routine'; is very bad for a dating/married couple to do. Things need to be fun.





EDIT: Progressive (way above me) is very correct, too.
i asked my husband the same question when he decided he didnt want to be married anymore.





i seriously came home and he told me he didnt want to be married anymore. i didnt even see it coming.





its so easy to get a divorce these days, i mean if your spouse disagree about where to live, get a divorce, you dont like the way your husband drives, get a divorce, your wife asks you to take out the trash one to many times, get a divorce. its ridiculous.





my parents are divorced but they at least tried for 4 years they went to therapy and counseling, most people who get divorced these days dont even put forth the effort to try.





its sad, i can understand that some people cant work out their problems but half of them dont even attempt to find a happy medium where they can live peacefully.





also i think people just jump into marriage to soon and they dont really know the person.
Because people realize they have a choice! Divorce was frowned upon back in the day because your breaking the vowels you took when you got married. But these days happiness is better than some vowels you swore against when you were young and thought you were SO happy!





But then again...LIFE is becoming disposable as well.


People will life on average in 4 to 5 homes in their life time. People will own up to 6 on average cars in their life time and have up to 10 sexual partners. It's no more about owning one thing and sticking to it for the rest of your life.


We have been given choice and with choice comes disposable life styles :/
Because, marriages aren't about someone that you can live with, there about finding someone that you cant live without, and for someone to get a divorce it sends a pretty clear signal that they can live without someone. Why stay in a love-less marriage just because its the proper thing to do?
People think they'll be happier with a change.





Love isn't so much a feeling as a commitment. Welfare of children must come first, but before or after them, marriage has to be the first priority. Compromise.





It's fashionable these days for women to be angry at men, and they have reasons. However, giving up the anger is necessary for a good marriage.
I think your question is a bit haughty





Not all think marriage is disposable


I married a great man, he went to war, came home


disabled hooked on pain pills narcotics and became


abusive


13 years of marriage gone in flash.....


2 yrs later he has been off all narcotics for 14 months


we are now civil but I cannot and will not take him back


our divorce was final and I wish him well, miss the nice


guy but it was not an easy decision





and who are YOU to judge?


especially now with financial woes, loss of jobs


and stress taking a toll on marriages


so I hope you enjoy the view from your righteous pedestal
In the olden days if you wanted to divorce you had to take it to court and tell the jury a valid reason to divorce and many couples were intimidated to stand in front of a jury and say that they don't love there husband/wife.





but these days you just sign some papers and privatly tell them that you don't love them.
As my gramps puts it, women today have a better stance careerwise to be able to divorce because in the older times they depended on their husband for financial security. So they couldn't exactly get up and leave. In modern society where the wife is capable of holding a high standing job she doesn't need to take crap from the husband like before. This only explains some of divorces but it does explain some
Because it takes TWO to work out a marriage and when the other person has already given up, or is someone you have already given 1,000 chances to change and they REFUSE or just won't or CAN'T...........well, then.......time to start assessing exit strategies.





Life is too short to stay in a marriage that is making you effing MISERABLE.





If BOTH parities are not living up to all those colorful vows they took.......then one has broken their promise and the contract, becomes null and void.





Why should one party suffer because the other is lying cheat or a weasel, or a spoiled , self centered, egotisical brat.????





Marriage is grown up business, and takes TWO grown ups.





The trouble is........we often marry as KIDS or young adults.......





and one person, refuses to grow up.





Or one grows, but not in a GOOD way-





let me put it this way.............





I got ivy weeds that is choking my olive tree to death.





I like the ivy, it's pretty....looks nice.........but I gotta kill it, to save the Olive tree.





The olive tree, actually helps the ivy grow taller and thicker and more robust..............





I wish I could keep BOTH.......but the ivy will eventually strangle the olive tree to death.





if it's not a MUTUALLY satisfying union...........one of ya, has got to go!





and if I chop down the Olive tree...I kill the ivy as well, but if I chop down the ivy.......I save the olive producing Olive tree, which is actually a good thing....as we then make olive oil and eat the olives.





It does me no good to kill the olive tree, to keep the ivy that serves no real purpose in the end,





Now if you'll excuse me..........my clinging vine is calling.
No indoctrination about the benefits of commitment %26amp; stability, no good examples from the previous generation, no sense of self-respect, no sense of mutual respect, no sense -- period. Self-centered attitudes lead to self-gratification (cheating). Insecure attitudes lead to uncommitted, superficial relationships on which they give up habitually. I don't have enough time for the whole list. ~:|%26gt;
i agree. i think it has alot to do with the value system of family in general u know? also, the community togetherness isnt there anymore either so now we're more stressed and pretty fed up and not willing to ';give in'; to anything really. but mostly, the basic value system is pretty much a thing of the past. its very sad
Because we live in a nation of whiney spoiled brats who only think about them selves and are unable to comprimise.





Also there are a lot of insecure people who get married just because they are afraid that they won't be able to find a more suitable mate.
Because its too easy to get a divorce. You used to need a really good reason. Now they allow ';not compatible'; which could mean she cant cook or he is lazy. Im amrried and dont even DREAM of ever getting a divorce.
People today like the easy way out of anything. It's the ';path of least resistance'; syndrome that plagues the US today. People do what's easy or feels good at the moment. That is why we got a president to match that mentality
because when the going gets tough people would rather walk out than work it out, it is really sad. i still believe in marriage and I pray to get married some day. Nothing in life is suppose to be easy and that goes for marriage.
something that was created so commercially is bound to lose value over time...





because it is so easy to end it, people don't take enough time to think before they jump into it
People don't value much of anything with any real substance anymore.
because people are very stressed out these days than ever before


they see problems in the marriage as a sickness or disease; if you're sick, you want to get well
Because it isnt sacred to anyone anymore.. Nowadays its just a set of rules 2 ppl have to follow. A piece of paper, nothing more.
Because people take it very lightly, they don't really think ahead when getting married
Ask Bill (Slick Willy) Clinton, it was his administration that made divorce so easy......
Some people are selfish and only think about them selves, regardless of how others may feel. In short they don't care.
In some cases they just got married too fast. They weren't really in love to begin with.
i think marriage is an excuse to have meaningless sex all day.
They are being insane
Too lazy to work it out.
thats just america for ya
we see this all the time in soaps and on tv, hear it on talk shows, there are examples to follow