Is my husbands long term mistress a threat to my 15yr marriage?

My husband of 15yrs %26amp; I separated with no talk of divorce or reconcile. I still have hope for my husband %26amp; that we will raise our 4kids together.





We have been separated over a year and he has been with mistress over 2yrs. Is this woman a threat to my 15 marriage? Would a husband sacrifice his family for the other woman?Is my husbands long term mistress a threat to my 15yr marriage?
Your husband is the threat to your marriage, not any other woman.





If he's still seeing her, then obviously he has no interest in reconciling with you.Is my husbands long term mistress a threat to my 15yr marriage?
What gave you the first clue? If your husband has been gone for over a year and has had a mistress for over 2 years, there is not a threat to your marriage - your marriage is OVER! You are hanging on to hope that has no reason to exist. He hasn't divorced because it would cost him more financially, especially for the cost pf the divorce itself, than he is paying now. (I assume he IS paying you some kind of child support now???) Your husband has made his choice,now it's your turn. You need to move on %26amp; make a new life for yourself. Divorce him, get some legal protection for you %26amp; your children before he decides to have children with this other woman - or he simply decides to abandon you completely without support. Have you thought about what kind of example you are setting for your children? Do you want them to believe it's acceptable to be treated this way?
. .This woman is not a mistress, she is the other wife. You husband is buttering both sides of his bread. He is a pig and has been disrespecting you for years. Yes ,men have been sacrificing their families since the beginning of time. This was done to me in a similar way and I was devastated for many years and it is hard to recover from it, especially when you have children. My belief is that he doesn't want to talk about the divorce because of child and spousal support. As long as he can keep you hoping he will play it out as long as he can. I hate to be so brutal but this is how I see it. You need to respect yourself and your kids and move on. Would you want your daughter to go through this because of a man that has been cheating on her , I think not. Move on sweetie, be happy with your kids, start a new life , you deserve it.
You and your husband have been separated for over a year, Is she a threat to your Marriage, I think your HUSBAND is a threat to your marriage, HE is with this woman, if is not her it will be someone else! He is not showing YOU are YOUR Children any Respect, and being with the woman for 2 years, and married to you, He does not respect you are HIS children, I'm really sorry for you,because you still must love him, if you have not filed for divorce yet,, maybe you need counseling, and talk to someone that you can trust, to give you some strength and guidence
It does seem to lean towards that direction...





But have you tried talking to him? I don't want to get your hopes up, but perhaps he's waiting for you to talk to him about what actions to take next. But if your husband has no problem being separated from you and from the kids for a year already, then I would say your best bet is to fight for child support.
It seems he has already sacrificed his family for this woman. Do you really want to raise your children in this type of unhealthy relationship? Divorce your husband. Would you want your children to stay with a cheater? Move on with your life. Don't wait around for him to become level headed. Your letting him win anyway by letting him have everything still.
Well duh....??? look where he is. Why are you holding on to hope when he's with and where he wants to be. Listen honey...15 years is massive history with another. However, at the moment he has no regards or thoughts to you or the kids. If so, he'd be working out the family life he committed to 15 years ago. He knows you're sitting by the wayside waiting...therefore he's going to enjoy doing what he's doing. If by chance it fizzles out or blows up he knows who's sitting around waiting for him.





You should value yourself and worth far more than what you're settling for. If you have daughters...what are you teaching them by your actions and non-actions?
This woman is no threat, she is a fact. She already did the damage together with your husband. Your marriage ended the first day your husband cheated on you.





You are being a drama queen. The fact that he fell in love with some one else does not make him an unfit father. There are millions of divorced men who still care and help raise their children.
The mistress herself isn't the threat to your marriage, your husband's behaviour is.


You've separated and he's moved on with his life (he won't be seeing it as a sacrifice either!) Time to move on with yours too and accept its over, sorry.
Nope, she's no longer a threat to your marriage. YOU are a threat to her relationship with your (soon to be ex) husband. Sounds like he already sacrificed you and the kids for her. Get a good lawyer.
Men are men - they'll screw anybody any time - you're being played





It's divorce time - also, once a cheater always a cheater
After a year long separation because your husband had an affair, it seems clear to me that your husband has sacrificed his family for the woman he was having an affair with. I am truly sorry that you are going through this...
Are you for real? He has left you already for his mistress. Just having a paper that says your married is not enough to keep it going. I seriously suggest counseling.
I can't imagine how you would pine away for a man who lives with another woman. Please learn how to respect yourself.





Your marriage is over, but he will always be father to your children.
He is already looking at the marriage as over and has moved on, but I hope he is going to be there for the kids
She already has him. Divorce him and take him for everything.
Yes but it will take time.
It seems to me she already has him. I'd say yes she's a threat.
yeah obviously i can't believe you actually want to stay with him while he has been cheating on you for 2 years
YES!!!!!
when she is done with him you will get him back ! 5 or 6 years from now !
OMG!!!! you poor thing..im so sorry you dont respect yourself...girl move on...he will do the same to her..dont you worry..
Of course she is. Is your brain on autopilot or what?
yes
He'll come back. Hang in there, sweetie!