How to keep a marriage interesting and last?

Im getting married on Oct. 10th and i am really excited but also getting really nervous. I know how most marriages end in divorce and i would like some advice on how to keep our marriage interesting and how to keep it from ending the way most marriages do.How to keep a marriage interesting and last?
Why do some couples stay happy together for a lifetime, while others are in conflict almost from the beginning?





Part of the answer is compatibility - making the initial choice of a partner with whom you share common values. Equally much, however, depends upon the choices each partner chooses to make during the relationship. Here are seven choices made by happy couples:





1. Trust: Suspicion and jealousy are the death knell of any relationship. If the other is going to cheat or otherwise dishonor the relationship, suspicion and jealousy will not prevent it, and such a relationship is fatally flawed in any case. Unwarranted suspicion and jealousy create misery in a surprising number of relationships. If you want to live happily, trust your partner completely. If they dishonor your trust, deal with the situation then. In the meanwhile, your will have been happy.





2. Open Communication: Tell the truth, tell the whole truth. If you didn't want to share your whole life with your partner, why are you together? If you make a mistake, admit it. If you have doubts, talk about them. Secrets and lies kill a relationship. With truth and openness anything is possible. Even if something is unforgivable, it is better to deal with it quickly.





3. Honoring the other's point-of-view: People disagree, couples disagree. Understanding that the two partners in a couple remain individuals is crucial to a happy relationship. Why would you expect that you and your partner should agree on everything? Honor that one of you is a Republican and the other a Democrat. Honor that one of you is a vegetarian and the other loves a great steak.





4. Self-Confidence: Co-dependence is another frequent cause of failed relationships. Happy couples know that they don't need each other. Each partner is a completely whole and valid individual who has entered into a voluntary partnership. Neither ';owns'; the other, nor ';can't live without'; the other. Each has their own interests and friends, as well as having mutual interests and friends.





5. Generocity: Greed and selfishness kill relationships. True love is generous in spirit. Mostly, generosity is not about material things, although that is also important. To have a happy relationship, be generous of your time, your love, and your attention.





6. Forgiveness: Resentments and thoughts of revenge and vengeance have no place in a happy relationship. Happy couples forgive each other completely for everything the other has ever done or failed to do - no exceptions.





7. Gratitude: Happy couples are continuously grateful for each other. Every day there are a myriad of reasons to be grateful for your partner. Find those reasons each day, and thank your partner every day.How to keep a marriage interesting and last?
I been married over 30 years and the most important thing to me is the attraction I still feel for my husband. If you can keep that feeling alive you can get through the bad times. Never go to bed mad at each other kiss and make up that part is the best. Never start taking your husband for granted he needs to feel appreciated and loved as you do. Don't try to change him and don't let him change you. The first year of marriage is the hardest to get through because you want things your way and he wants things his way. The biggest problem is as soon as you say I do everything changes like no more nights out together. He has you now he doesn't have to wine and dine you anymore. Change is hard and it can get pretty lonely after the honeymoon phase is over. If you start to feel like you made a mistake marrying him that's normal and it will pass. Congrads on your up coming marriage ..
I was married for 28 incredibly happy years until my husband died from a brain tumour. What we felt kept us grounded and committed was our faith. There's an expression ';You invited God to the wedding......now invite him to the marriage';. Unfortunately, it's one of the few things that helps make a successful marriage and the one thing that most people simply refuse to acknowledge and try!
I think it all starts with commitment. First commitment to one another and then later to the children. Other than that, the best advice I can give is to limit your social time apart, share all money and debts, and let one person handle paying the bills.





Oh, and you don't have to have sex whenever he wants, but never, never use it as a weapon.





Good luck and congrats.
Keep it fun. Find things you enjoy doing together. Don't be afraid of time spent apart also. It's needed. Sex is important....don't neglect it. Make time for it. Sleep naked! :) Money is huge too. You guys need to agree on how your money is spent. Grow together...support each other's dreams and goals. Respect each other. Learn not to say something you can never take back.





Good luck. If you work at it, you'll succeed. :)
I have been married over 20yrs one of the things I have learned is never be afraid to say how you feel about things never hold it in you must be able to talk about both the good and the not so good in life and marriage
as long as you marry someone you are truly in love with, it will always be interesting!





communicate, trust, honesty, intimacy....very important!
Learn how to pray and praise together...lift up Christ and He will lift up your marriage.
Jesus should be very important to both of you. get into a solid, bible preaching church.