Some people do. Instead of marrying the 'right' person, they 'settle.' When they do, years later, their lack of compatibility (emotional, intellectual, values/interests) become apparent, their relationships stagnate, they grow apart.
If after 5 years you can still smile, enjoy conversations with them, love them as they are, sure, why not? Intimate relationships are about finding the person who 'complements' us, so that as we get older, we grow 'together.'
Me personally, if I stay with someone 1 year and I don't see marriage prospects in them, I would consider breaking up. With age/experience, I can even vouch to say, I give a person 6 months to really get a 'feel' for who they are. If I absolutely DO NOT like them, I would dump them even sooner. My time's too precious.Is a relationship after five years too long to end with marriage?
Get married when you're ready to do so. If you're both communicating with each other about where you want the relationship to go, and you're still together, you're obviously both comfortable with what's happening and what's going to happen. I think it's remarkable that you didn't rush into it. The actual act of marriage means different things to different people. For some couples, marriage is THE goal. Whereas with you, it seems that although it may be important, spending time together and getting to know each other better has been the priority, given the time span. For some couples (to take the other extreme), marriage is simply a legal and religious (if you believe) formality and sometimes doesn't really change the relationship much.
Do whatever you're comfortable with. It's never too late to get married, and no length of time is too long to make sure that it will last forever. Divorces aren't fun. Take the time to get it right.Is a relationship after five years too long to end with marriage?
As the others said.. you question is very confusing..
Why would a LT relationship end with marriage? A marriage should lengthen and strenghten the relationship.. not end it
That said.. I have known several couples that got married after living together for LT.. and almost immediately got divorced. It seems that if one person in that type of relationship really wants to get married it is primary because he or she has expectations that the other person will change after marriage. Usually there is no change in a relationship just because of a societal formality.
Im confused by your wording! are you asking if you dated for 5 yrs does it have to end in marriage...or if we dated for 5 years has my time to propose passed?
NO! its not the time that matter...but how you interact. and that sounds shady at best!
It is long enough to decide.
Yes and No--- Now I am confused. Please restate your question in English?
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