Friday, November 25, 2011

When should i apply for marriage license and do i need witnesses?

im getting married on halloween of this year. even though to some it may seem a bit off, its coming up fast. when should my fiance and i apply for the marriage license? how long will it take for us to get it and do we need witnesses to sign it? oh, and i live and getting married in oklahoma :P thanks bunches!When should i apply for marriage license and do i need witnesses?
the county clerks office is where i got mine and yes you do need a witness. You need to go the county clerks with both your husbands id and yours and i believe birth certificates Too You both need to be there.


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How did the common law marriage, read before 1989?

Is there any other known laws listed before 1989 on common law marriages?How did the common law marriage, read before 1989?
Common Law Marriage


Common law marriage is permitted in a minority of states. To be defined as a common law marriage within the states listed below, the two parties must: agree that they are married, live together, and hold themselves out as husband and wife. Common-law marriage is generally a non-ceremonial relationship that requires ';a positive mutual agreement, permanent and exclusive of all others, to enter into a marriage relationship, cohabitation sufficient to warrant a fulfillment of necessary relationship of man and wife, and an assumption of marital duties and obligations.'; Black's Law Dictionary 277 (6th ed. 1990).





Before modern domestic relations statutes, couples became married by a variety of means that developed from custom. These became the elements of a ';common-law marriage,'; or a marriage that arose by operation of law through the parties' conduct, instead of through a ceremony. In many ways, the theory of common-law marriage is one of estoppel - meaning that parties who have told the world they are married should not be allowed to claim that they are not married in a dispute between the parties themselves.





Currently, only 10 states (Alabama, Colorado, Kansas, Rhode Island, South Carolina, Iowa, Montana, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania and Texas) and the District of Columbia recognize common-law marriages contracted within their borders. In addition, five states have ';grandfathered'; common law marriage, allowing those established before a certain date to be recognized. New Hampshire recognizes common law marriage only for purposes of probate, and Utah recognizes common law marriages only if they have been validated by a court or administrative order.








Alabama


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Colorado


Ohio 4





District of Columbia


Oklahoma5 (Okla. Stat. Ann. tit. 43, 搂 1)





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Pennsylvania (23 Penn. Cons. Stat. 搂 1103)





Idaho 虏


Rhode Island





Iowa (Iowa Code Ann. 搂. 595.11)


South Carolina





Kansas 8


Texas 6 (Tex. Fam. Code Ann. 搂 2.401)





Montana (Mont. Code Ann. 搂 26-1-602, 40-1-403)


Utah7(Utah Code Ann.搂 30-1-4.5)














Only for common law marriages formed before January 1, 1997 (1996 Georgia Act 1021).





Only for common law marriages formed before January 1, 1996 (Idaho Code 搂 32-201).


Common law marriages effective only at death. (N.H. Rev. Stat. Ann 搂 457:39).


Only for common law marriages formed before October 10, 1991 (Lyons v. Lyons 621 N.E. 2d 718 (Ohio App. 1993)).


Only for common law marriage formed before November 1, 1998. (1998 Okla. SB 1076).


Texas calls it an ';informal marriage,'; rather than a common-law marriage. Under 搂 2.401 of the Texas Family Code, an informal marriage can be established either by declaration (registering at the county courthouse without having a ceremony), or by meeting a 3-prong test showing evidence of (1) an agreement to be married; (2) cohabitation in Texas; and (3) representation to others that the parties are married. A 1995 update adds an evidentiary presumption that there was no marriage if no suit for proof of marriage is filed within two years of the date the parties separated and ceased living together.


Administrative order establishes that it arises out of a contract between two consenting parties who: (a) are capable of giving consent; (b) are legally capable of entering a solemnized marriage; (c) have cohabited; (d) mutually assume marital rights, duties, and obligations; and (e) who hold themselves out as and have acquired a uniform and general reputation as husband and wife. The determination or establishment of such a marriage must occur during the relationship or within one year following the termination of that relationship.


Kansas law prohibits recognition of common law marriage if either party is under 18 years of age. (2002 Kan. Sess. Laws, SB 486, 搂23-101).


Because the doctrine of common law marriage developed prior to the advent of modern domestic relations statutes, in some states the law exists in case law rather than legislation. (For example: Piel v. Brown, 361 So. 2d 90, 93 (Ala. 1978); Deter v. Deter, 484 P.2d 805, 806 (Colo. Ct. App. 1971); Johnson v. Young, 372 A.2d 992, 994 (D.C. 1977); Smith v. Smith, 161 Kan. 1, 3, 165 P.2d 593, 594 (1946); Sardonis v. Sardonis, 106 R.I. 469, 472, 261 A.2d 22, 23 (1970); Johnson v. Johnson, 235 S.C. 542, 550, 112 S.E.2d 647, 651 (1960)).





Tennessee has employed a doctrine of ';estoppel to deny marriage.'; See Note, Informal Marriages in Tennessee - Marriage by Estoppel, by Prescription and by Ratification, 3 VAND. L. REV. 610, 614-15 (1950).





Many states have abolished common-law marriage by statute, because common-law marriage was seen as encouraging fraud and condoning vice, debasing conventional marriage, and as no longer necessary with increased access to clergy and justices of the peace. (For example: Cal. Civ. Code 搂 4100; N.Y. Dom. Rel. Law 搂 11 ; Furth v. Furth, 133 S.W. 1037, 1038-39 (Ark. 1911); Owens v. Bentley, 14 A.2d 391, 393 (Del. Super. 1940); Milford v. Worcester, 7 Mass. 48 (1910)).





Among those states that permit a common-law marriage to be contracted, the elements of a common-law marriage vary slightly from state to state. The indispensable elements are (1) cohabitation and (2) ';holding out.'; ';Holding out'; means that the parties tell the world that they are husband and wife through their conduct, such as the woman's assumption of the man's surname, filing a joint federal income tax return, etc. This means that mere cohabitation cannot, by itself, rise to the level of constituting a marriage. Of course, many disputes arise when facts (such as intentions of the parties or statements made to third parties) are in controversy.





The United States Constitution requires every state to accord ';Full Faith and Credit'; to the laws of its sister states. Thus, a common-law marriage that is validly contracted in a state where such marriages are legal will be valid even in states where such marriages cannot be contracted and may be contrary to public policy.





There is no such thing as common-law divorce. Once parties are married, regardless of the manner in which their marriage is contracted, they are married and can only be divorced by appropriate means in the place where the divorce is granted. That means, in all 50 states, only by a court order.How did the common law marriage, read before 1989?
I think it was 6 years and a child together in OHIO ,I don't know if it applies today

What do you think is the most important ingredient in a good marriage?

love and commitment. if you love a person you attempt to put their needs and feelings before your own. you think of their happiness and you try to do what you can to make that a reality for them. commitment because you will have to be committed to work at it and not give up. people take marriage too lightly because it has lost its sense of permanence. marriages that have lasted for 30 years are that way because they have made the decision that they would work on making it work. you also need to try to date your spouse. remember when you first met and you got those butterflies in your stomach or you held out her chair and opened the door for her. ladies put on that sexy lingerie when he was coming over. now you aren't gonna do that every day but trust me in a marriage it will be appreciated even if every once and a while. the most important thing in a good marriage is to like your significant other and treat them as if they are significant. steal away and sit back and enjoy the little things. it will go a long way. enjoy. listen even if you have to fake interest, i cant tell you how many boring conversations i've had about my man's job and his day, but i seemed engaged and he felt heard. and try to have a good time. when you enjoy each other it makes like so much more worth living.路 What do you think is the most important ingredient in a good marriage?
cinnamon. Next would probably be almond flavoring, and then butter just to keep it all together.








Now I'm hungry.路 What do you think is the most important ingredient in a good marriage?
Commitment!
honesty
laughter and comprimise
two i think. integrity and trust.
true love
to tell each other everything and to share the good times and bad times
Love,respect,trust,humour,and a little humility.
Lots of love, honour, respect and of course great sex!
Trust and of course love.
Trust
Definately trust and laughter but trust first
mutual respect and understanding of each others needs etc etc
sex
fun and laughter. When that goes, your doomed!
love
selflessness and trust
You have to be able to put up with your partners bad habits and annoying moments and come out smiling.
Trust, companionship, respect and a common goal.
Compromise
Trust and Honesty
Friendship (and all that it entails)
COMMUNICATION, committment to common goals, compromise
Communication, I think, is more important than anything. I've seen this happen--I had a friend who was dating a girl, and they loved each other a LOT. They were faithful, they laughed a lot--and from what I hear, the sex was good. But they had a tendency to talk to us--the friends--about the relationship rather than to each other, and it was doomed. You have to talk to each other. End point.
Love .. everything else mentioned will follow.
deep love
passion and loyalty and love . . . duh


Personally,


brains and looks
To be compatible and trust each other too.
Loyalty and to work as a team and not as though you are still single as that is when the cracks begin to show.
Trust

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  • How does Shakespeare treat Romeo and Juliet? (in the aspect of family, marriage, feuds, duels etc.)?

    How does Shakespeare treat death in Romeo and Juliet? Frame your answer in terms of legal, moral, familial, and personal issues.How does Shakespeare treat Romeo and Juliet? (in the aspect of family, marriage, feuds, duels etc.)?
    Romeo and Juliet is a tragedy written early in the career of William Shakespeare about two teenage ';star-cross'd lovers'; whose untimely deaths ultimately unite their feuding families.





    In Romeo and Juliet, Shakespeare employs several dramatic techniques that have garnered praise from critics. Chief among them intense shifts between comedy and tragedy, like the punning exchange between Romeo and Mercutio just before Tybalt arrives. Before Mercutio's death in Act three, the play is largely a comedy.





    After his accidental demise, the play suddenly becomes serious and takes on a tragic tone. When Romeo is banished, rather than executed, and Friar Lawrence offers Juliet a plan to reunite her with Romeo, the audience can still hope that all will end well. They are in a ';breathless state of suspense'; by the opening of the last scene in the tomb: If Romeo is delayed long enough for the Friar to arrive, he and Juliet may yet be saved.[37] These shifts from hope to despair, reprieve, and new hope, serve to emphasise the tragedy when the final hope fails and both the lovers die at the end.





    Shakespeare also uses sub-plots to offer a clearer view of the actions of the main characters. For example, when the play begins, Romeo is in love with Rosaline, who has refused all of his advances. Romeo's infatuation with her stands in obvious contrast to his later love for Juliet. This provides a comparison through which the audience can see the seriousness of Romeo and Juliet's love and marriage. Paris' love for Juliet also sets up a contrast between Juliet's feelings for him and her feelings for Romeo. The formal language she uses around Paris, as well as the way she talks about him to her Nurse, show that her feelings clearly lie with Romeo. Beyond this, the sub-plot of the Montague鈥揅apulet feud overarches the whole play, providing an atmosphere of hate that is the main contributor to the play's tragic end.





    Also for ';Complete'; details , check the following Link:





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    Hope that helps a bit, Goodluck


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    What is the main reason marriage is failing more and more as time goes on?

    The divorce rate just keeps climbing... do you believe in marriage.. what reasons do you think are behind this that didn't exist before. What is the main reason marriage is failing more and more as time goes on?
    I think its a combination of things:





    1. its very easy to get a divorce (no fault divorce is a few hundred bucks)





    2.there's a lot of temptations (like computer dating, co-workers, urban environment, losser clothes on women, happy hours)





    3. there's a lot of me, me, me first attitude aka selfishness (I don't need you; there's always someone else attitude.)





    4. there's no financial dependence for women as they are able to get own jobs now (which is great for equality and womens rights no doubt, but terrible for the male pysche and family time)





    5. nobody wants to sacrifice anything....everybody wants the easy way out...just look at american idol, who wants to be a millionare, who wants to marry a millionare





    6. the religious component to marriage has vanished (as gays are getting married now, the priests are hanging out w/ little boys, and hardly anyone goes to church or cares about sin)





    7. lots of sexual experimentation before marriage nowadays


    (has led to much greater emphasis on sexual satisfaction) and also a much greater interest in lust and wanting to try new things/ new people etcWhat is the main reason marriage is failing more and more as time goes on?
    Climbing rate itself is the biggest reason for it's climbing.


    It's so common nowadays, that even 14 yrs old are aware of this and how it is done and it's short term benefits(going out again to have sex). Children out of a divorce would have no knowledge of how to sustain a relationship but would be aware of what legal document needed to apply divorce. Tell me if i'm wrong...........


    People today no longer want to compromise on any ground to keep their marriage going, instead like the idea of their colleague/friend/relative to get out of the relationship and find somebody else. I'm not sure how would this person be able to keep their next marriage forever?????


    It's so easy to get divorce today, just live separate for 1 yr and the marriage is over by law. It's ridiculous....No question ask from applicant, no acceptance needed from respondent.


    If the law wouldn't change i'm sure, day is not far that people will end their marriage like how people end their one night stands and look for someone new next day.
    Because the man's package is shrinking and failing more and more as time goes on.





    To be serious. Commitment is no longer a word that has meaning. Too many get married and expect their happiness to be provided by their partner. True spirituality level is excluded and replaced by material stuffs. People tend to look for bond outside of the marriage : threesome, swinging, porn etc. Discrimination against the man whose earning is not strong even if he has a good, firm family value: money talks. Lack of support for the spouse. So much money freedom from the woman brings up this reasoning in difficult time: Do I need you? Yes! I believe in marriage.
    I think it's cause divorce is too easy. It's also more socially acceptable to get a divorce. I think couples have problems and give up to easy because they know that they can just get a divorce. I do believe in marriage as i am married and i stand by the vows that my husband and i recited. For better or worse you stand by one another.





    However there are some exceptions...infidelity, criminal behaviour etc.
    People just have sex too quickly now. They start the relationship having sex. This numbs them to the real person because they are now emotionally attached and mostlikely overlooking all the signs that say this is not the right one. They don't take the time to really get to know someone......





    What are their spiritual beliefs - Do we have the same spiritual beliefs





    How do they feel about kids





    How well do they get along with their family





    How do they handle adversity - death of a loved one





    Are they prone to depression





    Do they have good spending habits / are they good stewards





    What do they expect from a husband/wife





    Do they have a bad temper





    Are they abusive





    There are a TON of other questions that should be answered before getting married but we don't do that for fear of really finding out without a shadow of a doubt that this is NOT the one.





    Usually, these are the things we find out AFTER we've moved in and got ourselves in over our heads. Wedding hasn't even happened yet.





    Then we marry and expect it all to change and magically line up with our ideal situation only to be let down and decide it's not worth working at it - they move out and get a divorce.





    Bottom line, people need to get to know each other more WITHOUT having sex. Once you know for sure this is the one.....get married, get your freak on and enjoy the land.





    Be blessed.


















    Deep time proven friendship must be part of any romantic relationship to endure time. Most get married for the thrill, for sex, to have someone they can call a spouse, to cook and do their laundry, but not as a life partner,. Many try it out to see what happens. Many people do not get it. Deep caring friendship as the boilerplate is essential To last.
    spouses need to communicate with eachother more than anything to maintain a strong relationship! if they aren't 100% honest with eachother, that's what makes the marriage fall appart. I'm not old enough to know that 1st hand, but I'm not stupid and I do know what I'm talking about!
    theres only one thing that could really kill a marriage, and that's betrayal, when betrayal happens, self worth leaves, and u don't see your spouse as your love anymore. once the ego gets involved, and your hurt, its over with. even loving them can't bring it back.
    the reason the divorce rate keeps going up is related to the housing crisis in the united states. people want more and they are willing to take a risk. this reflects on the relationship.






    I feel the problem is people are just never satisfied with who they chose to be there life partner. Some should just stay single because there are too many of the other sex out there to have sex.


    Sex. Is the biggest problem.
    Well for one more people are cheating on their spouse. There is a website cheating on your spouse, so wrong. A lack of communication. Where always busy so theres no time for some people and there spouse.
    Many people get married for all the wrong reasons in the first place. A lot of marriages are doomed before they start.
    A lack of communication, the economy, not enough sex...
    money is the problem of all broken marriages
    my wifes sex drive

    Why do some people think marriage necessary before having children?

    I just don't understand why people are still hung up on people being married before they have kids. Do you feel this way? Why do some people think is necessary? Do people honestly think just because two people are married they somehow make better parents? In a world where it is uncommon to actually wait to have sex until marriage--why does it matter?Why do some people think marriage necessary before having children?
    as someone who has raised one child and halfway through 2 more, my experience has been that you NEED a female and a male to raise well-rounded healthy children. (of course there are a few exceptions) I have 3 boys- when they were little, they preferred me...as they grow older, they rely on dad more. As i am not a man, there is no way i can answer ';guy'; questions, offer insight into why men do what they do, personal stuff involving men, etc. (same reason why dads don't usually give the period/sex/birth control talks!)


    Most of all, though, children learn how to develop relationships based on what they see from us... How will your daughters learn how to treat a man without a dad? How would sons know how to treat ladies if there is no mom around? You would have to do triple duty picking up the slack... and most people fall short, as evidenced by single parent families w/ problem kids.


    In my humble opinion, parents do children a monumental disservice by bringing them into this harsh world and not being around for them. Because of this, you shouldn't have sex with someone you wouldn't want to share parenting with!Why do some people think marriage necessary before having children?
    having married parents shows a child committment and stability. While it is not uncommmon for people to divorce...it is nice to be able to know that the child was joined in a real bond.





    There are exceptions to all rules..but any research you ';google'; will show you that a child brought up in a two parent home feels better about themselves and is more successful.





    Also...while you are googling...google how difficult it is financially for a woman to raise a child alone. Very expensive.





    Marriage is good for kids. Not popular thought I know...just true.


    That doesn't mean kids can't do well without married parents, it is just BETTER.
    I think if you can't make a commitment to stay together till death do you part, how can you make a commitment to raise a child together? Believe it or not, I think people are more likely to walk away from a relationship when it's not a marriage. Children deserve the stability of their parents being married.





    Now that being said, I don't think people who are married are better parents. there are so many people who are in bad marriages. As for your comment about the state of the world or the US; just because it's so rare for people to wait until marriage to have sex, doesn't make that right!





    I'll also mention that I'm a 25 year old single mom (and a pretty good one) of 5 year old twin boys. I married their father when they were 1, and separated from him last year. My kids' dad no longer shows any significant commitment to our kids.
    That's the reason we have so many problems today! Children need the example of 2 loving parents who work together to raise them in a loving and healthy environment and teach them right and wrong. Of course there are times when there are single parents and they make very good parents, and they do a wonderful job, but the children will miss out on something if they do not have the example of both mother and father. Men and women are different and children learn different things from both of them.





    Marriage is important.....it does matter!
    I don't know, personally, I can't imagine having sex with someone I'm not married to in the first place. I'm so thankful I waited until marriage to have sex and so did my husband. We are so lucky to have found each other. To me, sex is something so precious and valuable - not to be given to someone you hardly know and proably won't talk to forever. I wanted to have sex with my soul mate, the person I was going to spend the rest of my life with. And fortunately, I have found that. I think people just go out and have sex with people they hardly know or don't even know what their first name is, and end up pregnant. Is that a good stable home for a baby? No way. But I know everyone is different and everyone has their own set of values. This is just my opinion. But my heart cringes knowing how many kids have parents who are aren't together, who fight all the time, etc. Not to mention how many people don't even know who their father is. I think that's horrible.
    i think it is because it is so important to have both parents in the same house raising the child together, also the it makes it harder for the father of the child to bolt when they are married, if they do get a divorce, they have to pay child support.
    Marriage is a social relationship... it create a sence of security %26amp; responsibility over our partner %26amp; our child. We can hav child without marriage... bt it may not make you or your partner feel responsible towards eachother. No doubt that love is also a factor, bt marriage makes it more strong.


    So i say.. no kids without marriage..
    I know for me it's biblical in that premarital sex is blatantly condemned by the bible. If it wasn't for that though, I agree with you. I think that some people make better parents as just friends than some parents do as marriage mates. Personally I'd rather hand-pick a father for my child, one who wants the child as much as I do, as opposed to getting married and then after having kids getting divorced so my kids only see their dad every other weekend.
    I think it is noones business if they are married or not. I think it is rude to answer a question on ttc with ';well get married first'; Being maried had nothing to do with it. It is all about SEX. get it right. Thanks for asking this question.
    If it feels right to you then do it. Who cares what anyone else thinks!
    b/c people like to criticize others


    it's not necessary, but it's easier to care for kids if you have 2 people involved.


    if you are w/ someone and you just don't want to get married (or legally can't), i don't think it poses a problem, unless the kids think one of the parents will walk out any minute.


    look at goldie hawn %26amp; kirk douglas
    I believe the best family for a child is two parents to be in a committed relationship. They may or may not be married but they do need to understand that this is for the long haul.


    Now, remember, everyone out there who may take offense. I did say this is my opinion (not fact) and that I said I think it is the best situation, not the only good one. Crap happens in any relationship, committed or not and the kids usually pay. But i feel that the committed relationship gives them a good solid foundation.
    well people can make that decision because of religion or maybe they find it more appropriate to just wait till marriage
    It depends on your belief. In an ideal situation, only married ppl are allowed to have kids. Marriage isn't an anyhow thing. The man and the woman must be responsible and love each other, and when this exists, the children have no choice but to grow into responsible ppl.





    I want to correct that marriage wasn't made primarily for child rearing(lol). It was instituted for companionship as it was in Genesis (u should understand this if u are a christian). Majority of those who are single parents really desire the companionship of a mate, though they claim not to. To have a fulfilled family, a genuine marrige is necessary. That is my belief.
    The reason premarital sex is so common is because a lot of people have the attitude that it is ok and they pass that belief onto their children. It is called perpetuating the cycle. If more parents would teach their children that sex before marriage is inappropriate then maybe children would stop being so promiscuous.





    Also if two people are together as parents why not get married? If you are already living the life why not just do it. It seems to me like its just a cop out to make it easier to leave if things get rough. What sort of example does it set for children if their parents tell them they shouldn't have sex before marriage but aren't married themselves.





    I'm not trying to be holier than thou. I didn't wait until I was married to have sex, but I haven't ever had sex with anyone but my husband. So at least on some level I won't be a hypocrite when I tell my daughter she should only have sex with her husband.
    It sets a good example to the children. Children model their lives after the adults in their lives. If they see commitment, it gives them a sense of security that you wouldn't find in a home where perhaps daddy is someone different every few years. That, in turn, sets them up to see marriage as beneficial in life. Married people may not make better individual parents, but they do make it easier one each parent by having a supporting partner to turn to when things get rough.





    When people say that we live in a world where this or that is uncommon, my first thought is: are you really all that impressed with this world? It's violent and unstable. Love takes a back seat to success, power, money鈥?these aren't things that make your life better. The ';it's acceptable by our society'; argument is the worst I've ever heard.





    Ask any child of divorce or any child of unmarried, parents that aren't still together if they'd rather have had married, committed parents. I don't think you'll get many to say they'd preferred it that way.
    Well, believe alot of it has to do with maturity and commitment. Some people are raised to believe in certain ways of life and accept those ways. Married or not has nothing to do with being a good parent. However, stability, maturity and commitment do. I know quite a few people who have children but really needed a life guard in the gene pool. Parenting is hard and not a decision that should be taken lightly. My opinion is. If you are not in a good enought relationship to make the commitment of marraige, then you should not be even considering children. Children are a lot bigger commitment than marraige and there is no divorcing them.


    There are way too many single parents in the world today and most of them are burdens on the system because of lower income levels and education levels. Not all mind you..but most.
    It mostly involves the moral issue of having sex before marriage. Otherwise I dont know if it makes a childs environment more stable if you are married or not. I know a lot of people who aren't married who raise great kids.





    it's all a matter of opinion and everyone has one!
    It provides for a more stable environment.





    And both parents have made a legal commitment to the relationship, and the child.





    People feel that, all other things being equal, it's better for the child.





    Love is necessary, but showing it - by committing - is important too.





    Actions, as well as words.





    That's the theory.
    This is an old tradition. For me personally, I couldn't imagine being a single mother. I love having the support of my husband and the role model he is to my children. However, I have friends with children that live with their boyfriend/girlfriend and they are happy not being married.
    Well they have a name for kids of unmarried parents: bastards.
    I think its a good idea because it shows a bigger committment between the parents. A lot of unmarried couples will split up later on (not that married people dont get divorced). But a marriage is a more stable relationship and it offers more protection to the child (paternity will not have to be established if child support becomes an issue). Also it is nice to be a family not a boyfriend and girlfriend who have a child together. I personally hate to hear ';My baby's daddy or my baby's momma';.
    I think it is a good idea for people to be married before they have kids. It shows that they are ready to commit to each other before bringing life into this world. I don't think it neccesarily makes people better parents if they are married, obviously it doesn't because there is so much divorce involving children. Ultimately, it is really the couple's decision. I think if there is love and trust in a relationship and the couple feels like it is OK then you are right, it doesn't matter.
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    I think its a good idea, too many single mothers. If they were married they'd be sure they loved each other and the child would have two parents. I have a child and am not married and i'm going to marry her mother when i have enough money. I would have prefered to be married first though
    I agree with you my boyfriend %26amp; I have been together for about 4 years. We have one child together %26amp; I have 3 from previous relationship %26amp; he has one from previous relationship (all together we have 5 children). We already live together %26amp; are in the process of buying a house. We make all our purchases together, pay bills together, etc. We are now planning on getting married in September of 2007, just because we want to not because anyone else wants us to.





    Some people would say that we have done everything backwards, having kids %26amp; living like we are married without actually being married. But it works for us %26amp; we like our life. I think everyone is entitled to do things %26amp; live their life the way that suits them best %26amp; everyone else should butt out as far as critizing other people who don't do it ';the right way';.
    If 2 people are committed on all levels and mature adults, I see no reason to definitely make it legal...but there are other things that do come into play. If an unmarried couple breaks up, there are not as many legal protection factors (communal property for example)





    If a married couple acquires items during a marriage, it means those items belong to both parties. It does not mean that if there is no legal marriage I believe and in turn can cause many problems that in turn effect children. Unmarried couples may also have issues if one of the partners gets ill. I know a couple who had kids before marriage and the mother had to have a serious surgery. Her partner had limited rights because they were not married...so they got married!
    yeah I saw their around 34 answers and I think I have some thing about that , its not good if who couldn't able to looking for a family and after only a Short minute feeling of sex made some wrong stuff around all life . and other way if your just wanna try please don't follow Satan . do you know AIDS that is from Satan presents for dump people so before your not ready for looking for a family don't have any sex its up to self of person who wanna get it before marry or after marry but one ring is you should know clearly that you will to be a dad or mam for a child after your enjoy the well sex its not a game .
    I don't know. I got married to my husband because I was pregnant and that has just caused us problems... not that I don't want to be committed.... I just wasn't ready to be married.





    We now have some problems, and are trying to find ways to make things work. I think it would have been simpler to let things take their course, and had us actually get married when we were ready....





    To your question though... the reason why we got married and it became important was family pressure. My parents thought that my son wouldn't be accepted into the eyes of the Lord unless we were married. We aren't Christian, but I think we both caved into family pressures.





    It's not a good answer... but it's the truth. *sigh*





    (And this is why we want a baby sitter, LOL. I think right now, especially after moving we need some time out. We have never used a sitter before... but we are running out of options and we haven't had any time with just us in a year.... We both love our son, but it's becoming apparent, we need to work on ourselves a little as a couple too right now.)
    It is a big deal and very necessary. Firstly, because the bible says so and it is very sad that sex is so common outside of marriage. Secondly, having the bond of marriage is a lot harder to get out of then just walking out of the house. Thirdly, marriage shows your children that they are completely committed to their spouse and most of all their kids. Fourthly (if this is even a word??), marriage, in my experience, is what solidifies a child's well being and shows them that love, through their parent's marriage, is how life should be.


    I wish more parents actually practiced this. :)
    I did not even know that they do.

    What happens in an Islamic marriage ceremony?

    My partner and I would like to marry. She is from Lebanon, and is a Christian, am I. Her mother is a devout Muslim, who has expressed to me that she cannot consent to our marriage unless I convert to Islam. She does not seem to acknowledge that her daughters (both of them) converted to Christianity a number of years ago. I would like to please her, and yet I cannot renounce my Christianity. What would be expected of me if I participate in a Muslim ceremony?What happens in an Islamic marriage ceremony?
    she's right because in Islam a Muslim girl is not allowed to marry a man from different religion so he needs to convert into Muslim





    and about the second part of the question


    there is two kinds of Muslims ceremony


    1) devout Muslims: put only a classic music and the pride doesn't dance except once with her husband


    while the for Muslims who don't mind listening to music and not ';devout'; they can put a usual music and the pride can danceWhat happens in an Islamic marriage ceremony?
    U can ask beter then everyone your partner. she can explain you very perfectly the ceremonial things of a marriage or daily things.
    well since we muslims believe in the same God Jesus believes in.... If you have a muslim sheik marry you and your fiance.. it will be in Gods eyes and with his blessings..


    Islamic marriage (the actual ceremony itself) isnt much. You, a couple of family members, usually her father or uncle, and 2 of your witnesses.. go before the sheik in the masjid and you say pretty much a simple version of some wedding vows that you will honor her under God for the rest of your married life to the best of your ability.. both say your vows, the witnesses sign the papers, the sheik does.. you and your wife do and thats about it..


    its the party afterwards that can vary with cultures.. I dont know how lebanese folks do it.. But I am from SaudiArabia..


    where men and women dont mix.. so we usually hire a huge wedding hall and the men are in one section, the women in the other.. It is a huge expensive party.. Hiring singers, musicians. hiring caterers... a photographer.. Everyone goes in the finest most best clothes they can manage.. The women dance, sing until the wee hours of the morning.. The men\'s side its pretty much boring, they usually (so my husband tells me) just shake hands with everyone, chat a bit,, eat a bit, then go home and wait till their women folks get tired call them to pick them up around 2-3am... loooooooooool...
    Love knows no boundaries..............





    Anyway, why must you participate in a muslim ceremony when you say your partner has converted to christianity??
    You simply cannot marry if she is muslim....you cant convert for the sake of marriage...it also has more to do with her wali, or male guardian....if you are both christian, do it whatever way you would, you cant have it both ways....to participate in a muslim ceremony you must make the declaration that you are muslim, u must Mean it.....i suggest you learn more about christianity and you will truly find Islam is the real solution, and answers all the questions that christianity simply raises.
    Well, if you are both christian, why bother to have an islamic marriage ceremony?





    I mean, it is sure that the muslim mother wants an islamic ceremony to please her, she is a muslim. You are not. Choose with your head. The sky won't fall on your head if you decide to have a christian ceremony and you won't burn in hell like many muslims will try to sell you.





    What is more important to you? Please you or your mother-in-law?
    U cant coz ur christian. You have to declare ur conversion first.





    The muslims marraige ceromony is realy simple.


    A contract between the bride's father and the groom is signed . A verbal contract is accebtable but usualy a written one is needed for legal purposes with the existence of two male witnesses. A dowry ( Maher) usualy monetry is given to the bride.


    Divorce is permited in Islam.

    How can I best help my daughter and husband with troubled marriage?

    My daughter was unfaithful, she says he was shutting her out, and I know it isn't really any of my business. But there are children involved and I just want to do what I can to help them work things out, without sticking my head in where it doesn't belong.How can I best help my daughter and husband with troubled marriage?
    Stay out of it. Go to God for help... pray for them. If they ask for your help, be tactful and offer positive advice. Otherwise, stay out.





    -- on second thought... you are not a certified counselor. find a counselor for them in their neighborhood (one that is pro marriage and is married themselves) and give those kids the phone number and address.How can I best help my daughter and husband with troubled marriage?
    I come at things from an unusual angle but I thought I'd offer it in case it helps.





    In these situations I find it helpful to get out of the details and aim for the higher ';why';.





    For example, instead of trying to figure out what you should do to help ask yourself why you want to help.





    You may find that the ';why'; is that you want your grandchildren to feel loved and supported. That you want your daughter to feel loved and supported, etc.





    Then I would focus on how it would feel to be that. How does it feel to love your daughter and support her? How does it feel to be a positive resource for your grandchildren?





    If you focus on the why and how that feels you will find yourself totally in the right place at the right time with inspired ideas on what you can do or say that will really be helpful for all involved from a broader perspective.





    In the meantime I would do what they call Active Listening where you don't give advice unless you are asked but when they tell you something you are listening so intently that you can and do repeat it back to them such as ';What I hear you are saying is...';





    Sometimes just being heard is the best gift anyone can get.
    Jesus was asked whether divorce can properly be obtained for just any reason a person might have. He answered by appealing to the original marriage law.





    Jesus taught that divorce itself, in general, is contrary to God's will. God made one man for one woman, indicating He did not intend for either to marry anyone else. He said they should cleave to one another and the two become one - there is no room in God's plan for a third party. God joins the man and woman, no human has the right to break that bond.





    Further, whoever divorces his wife and marries again commits adultery (unless he does it because she has been guilty of fornication), and whoever marries her who has been divorced also commits adultery. (Mk. 10 adds that this rule also applies to the woman if she divorces her husband.)





    To help understand the passage, read it with your name and your spouse's name, instead of ';whosoever,'; etc.





    Matthew 19:9 - If ____________ (you) divorces __________ (his wife), except for fornication, and marries another, _________________ (you) commits adultery; and whoever marries ___________ (her who is divorced) commits adultery.';
    This is a tough one! I don't know how much you can do - it really will come down to the two of them. However, I do think you should encourage them to seek counseling - maybe offer to help pay for it, if you're that worried?





    Good luck!
    She acted poorly. So she should accept responsibility. Maybe a marriage counselor would help. You can offer to pay.
    Be there for the children and let you daughter and husband work it out.
    Offer to take the kids on the weekends. Give them a break for five mintues. they have enough stress.. play with your grand kids and stay out of their business

    How will i make my parents agree to my inter caste marriage?

    I am a hindu girl and my bf is a muslim and both of our parents are against our relationship and we are dating each other since more than one and a half year. We are very serious about our marriage and we are not finding any way to make our parents agree to our relationship. We don't want to get married by eloping from our places as this would affect our families deeply. Please someone suggest, how should we convince our parents.How will i make my parents agree to my inter caste marriage?
    Start by Telling Your Parents that You Think that You Might Love this Guy !How will i make my parents agree to my inter caste marriage?
    I really do not know as the bigotry, hate and prejudice appears to run very deep. You may have to tell them the get stu**ed and do it anyway. Your life comes before the stupidity of religion.
    Contact you local MLA. He will help you out.


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  • What does the rest of Europe think of Spain legalizing gay marriage?

    I for one think it's very positive, but open to hear all opinions.What does the rest of Europe think of Spain legalizing gay marriage?
    Nearly all of Europe accepts that two people of either sex want to be life partners.





    Marriage was meant for a legal union for the protection of the children of that union. It was a religious based arrangement.





    Most people have realized that religion is now past it's best before date and thankfully, people are being accepted as persons not as just serfs and breeders.What does the rest of Europe think of Spain legalizing gay marriage?
    There are other places in Europe where gay marriage is legal. Also, since most European countries do not go around throwing their religious beliefs in other people's faces, they are probably more okay with it than many Americans would think.





    There's been too many wars over religion in Europe and many European countries keep religion as a more personal thing--unlike America where it is everywhere! So yeah, most European people probably don't care either way.
    ok, I am not gay , but I find it very good that Spain is going to accept the


    legalizing gay marriage, and most ppl in Europe think the same .


    I have a Spanish gay friend who has waited for that many many years , and finally it came true . Liberty lives in Europe.


    I am for legalizing gay marriage but not for adopting a baby .





    btw good question
    Europe is very non-denominational, so they're pretty open to it, unlike the U.S. which still has a lot of Christian values in the gov't. I think many more European countries will follow, Sweden recently legalized same sex marriage with an overwhemiling vote. But I am proud to say that more U.S. states are legalizing gay marriage. I hope it continues.
    ';legal unions'; are usually o.k in most E.U Countries...





    There is nothing ';unnatural'; or ';devil-ish'; about these people... everyone should be Equal. Isn't the U.S.A Created on this phrase ?








    I know the marriage has been very contriversal here. Because it can be two men inside a Chuch. This I- and my other people disagree with less.


    Because it is in the religion. I wouldn't be allowed to marry in a Jew Church or Arab... Because I'm Catholic so I feel that the Government has out-ruled over the religion.





    But on the whole it is a good law to making people more equal. and my other countries should if they haven't all ready follow
    I can't speak for Europeans, but as an American who has lived in Spain (many years ago) I was surprised to hear that they had legalized it...once upon a time, they were pretty straightlaced. I was surprised to see how much things have changed in Spain in the last bunch of years!

    How many people think it is wrong to have sex before marriage?

    I have heard it all bad good ok what do you guys think?How many people think it is wrong to have sex before marriage?
    I would NEVER marry someone I haven't had sex with.





    You probably don't need ME to tell you this, but not everyone is good a sex. In terms of having he right physical stuff and the right strategies, and techniques, there is a very broad spectrum.





    I don't wanna date a woman for 3 or 4 years then get married and find out on the honeymoon that she smells like a rotting corpse and doesn't shave her pubes.





    I think you women have it even worse. Us guys can make the same mistake with pubes. We can be too short, too thin, we can have a penis stuck in he shape of a banana. We could have erectile dysfunction and not be able to perform at all, or we could have premature ejaculation and not be able to last a full minute of intercourse without coming.





    You wanna take that risk knowing the only ways out are divorce or having affairs? I'll pass.How many people think it is wrong to have sex before marriage?
    Sex before marriage is a matter of preference. Some will take a religious/moral stance saying you should wait until marriage. And that's valid. I think it's a good thing be sure that the relationship isn't just about sex/attraction, but something more.





    At the same time, sex is a big part since it is an expression of both your attraction and love for your partner. It's another facet of the person you should know about. And if you're just not compatible sexually, it could mean problems later on. So having some experience before marriage and learning how to communicate each other's needs can be good.





    One's not necessarily better than the other and it really comes down to what you're comfortable with. Personally, I just wait until I'm comfortable enough to be open with the person before I take the plunge - regardless of whether it's before or after marriage.
    I don't think it's necessarily right or wrong - it's a personal choice. What I think is wrong is having sex just for the sake of it, without really knowing or loving the person you're with. I doubt God is going to punish people for having premarital sex... I mean, it's not like He came down from the sky and wrote down the rules Himself, right? Whatever suits the person, I guess.
    I believe it is wrong to have pre-marital sex. I am a Christian. Waiting until marriage to have sex is a protection, not a punishment. And when people say ';I wouldn't buy a car without driving it'; BULL! That doesn't mean anything. Sex is something a married couple is supposed to LEARN HOW TO HAVE TOGETHER. That is part of the fun of being a newly wed! NO ONE is born a good lover. So why go out and sleep with a bunch of people to gain ';experience'; when you are still going to have to learn what each other likes anyways? I waited. My husband and I both waited. we were 21 when we got married and this next month it will be our 6th anniversary. Totally worth the wait!
    Oh come on in today's corrupted world, true marriage is a diamond in sand. Morals have changed ever so gradually and this is one of them. Everyone is going to say something different, but there really is no right answer.





    Myself, however, I'd rather not wait. ASAP lol. jk but marriage just is not that important to me at all. Honestly, it's a waste imo.
    I personally believe in making a marriage last and to me that means only marrying someone who I KNOW is perfect for me. To me that means that I have to see all sides of that person. Living together and sleeping together are part of that. I would never marry someone without experiencing all aspects of who they are.
    Personally, I don't believe people should have to wait until marriage if they don't want to. I do, however, believe that people should attach some meaning to sex and not just treat it as a fun hobby. I think it should be reserved for someone you love and trust.
    You gotta try it before you buy it. I don't care what anyone tells you. You don't want to marry a terrible lay. Make sure you bone before you get married. My own mother in law told my wife not to marry me unless I was giving her regular orgasms.
    Too many





    There's nothing wrong with having sex before marriage, after marriage, or instead of marriage.


    Sex is good. Everyone should be having more of it.
    Seeing how their are an estimated six billion people in the world, I will have to get back to you on that one.I have got a lot of questioning ahead of me if I am going to answer this on.
    I believe it's wrong. Sex is an intimate act. If you do it beforehand, you cause you and your partner a lot of pain that can be avoided.
    Who gives a sh!t any more?





    Do what you want, when you want it and how you want it!


    It's your relationship and no one should judge it!


    Do what makes you happy!
    God does not approve of it, and it's great if two people could save themselves for marriage, but I feel that it's nearly impossible in today's world.
    your not suppose to. I like to. that's me being honest. but i don't want to get married again sooo. I know this girl who waited and she found out it was not worth the wait. lol
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    i dont think its wrong but if you wait its a great thing no matter what. but its not bad what if you get married at 80 so you'll have sex at 80 that's crazy its not good or bad
    naughty naughty.
    whatever your preference Every one is different.
    OK with me for two consenting adults.
    Please try it out before marriage just in case you dont like it.
    I think it's wrong not to !


    I mean you gotta get some sex in before you die.
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    I think it's wrong not to. Or at least unwise.
    My life would have been really boring had I waited.
    if it's wrong, i dont' want to be right
    you have to...you dont want to buy a car without test driving it..
    not I
    I would never buy a car unless I test drove it first
    Thats not what God Wants. i'd wait till marriage
    Have as much as your can, then leave him/her before marriage. Its a lot cheaper that way.
    i dont know tbh. I know someone who lost their virginity at 11 and then again at 12

    How to find whether my wife is virgin,prior to my marriage?

    How can i find the virginity of my wife?B'coz , how can i ask a girl's virginity prior to marriage?How can i confirm her virginity,even if she says ,she is virgin?How to find whether my wife is virgin,prior to my marriage?
    If you don't trust this woman to tell you the truth, maybe you shouldn't be marrying her! If this based on religious principles, hopefully she shares your faith, or at least a similar one. Therefore, she should follow it's doctrines, also. If you have different faiths, or different levels of devotion, you could really have problems. I strongly suggest pre-marital counseling. In the Catholic Church, it's required, but I think it's a good idea for everybody, anyway.


    If this is based on Ego, just get over it! If you love a woman, it shouldn't come with a list of conditions! Love should be in spite of everything, not because of something.


    To answer your question specifically, a doctor can do a pelvic exam and see whether her hymen is intact. However, it can be torn in many other ways than just through sex, so if it is torn, you can't be sure how, unless she tells you.


    One good indicator would be how she acts when you make out. Is she confident, like she knows what she's doing? How far will she let you go before she stops you? If she doesn't stop you at all, I'd be concerned. However, that isn't certain, either. She may let you go a lot farther now that you're engaged.


    Again, I strongly suggest pre-marital counseling. You can get this issue out in the open for one thing. You also need to learn to communicate with this woman, and to trust her, before you take the plunge. Good luck!How to find whether my wife is virgin,prior to my marriage?
    You cannot confirm her virginity. There is no reliable test. You will just have to live without the 100% certainty.





    Either that, or find a child, put her in a chastity belt, and lock her up for a few years until she's old enough to marry.





    Surely you don't need certainty THAT badly.
    First off, you have to be married FIRST, before you can call someone your wife.





    Also, you can't tell...you can ask her and hope that she's honest about it. You can't confirm it. You will have to take her word for it.





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    She will prove she is a virgin when she refuses to let you go too far. A virgin will not allow any man to abuse her virginity if she wants to keep it for her husband to be - even if you are to be her future husband. Good women value their purity.
    1. Find a woman you trust.


    2. Ask her.
    There is no way - you have to take her word for it.
    there is no way if she is virgin she will not show u


    and if she is not why should she show





    so forget about viginity if u like her marry her





    and if u need virgin babe then i will say that


    u just hav that fun for single tie and hard workng


    also cause the loss of virginity


    so u have to think that if she is virgin





    thats better


    and if not





    assume that she s a hardworker





    hard working means


    lifting weight


    pulling heavy items


    dong jamnastic


    some excersises may also do that job








    so Marry and be Marry





    May Allah Shower His Blessings upon ur Couple


    Fee Aman Illah
    There isn't a way. Her hymen could have been broken while playing sports or in accidents. Shouldn't you trust her? Trust is an essential part of marriage.
    she is virgin as long as she didnt have any sexual relationships.Usually u can see if she is virgin or not by broking her hymen but hymen is not a prove of virginity .The hymen can break without she knows ..so on.,That doesnt make her unvirgin,She is virgin as long as she never slept with any1...





    anyway i dont know if u got me but what i wanted to say is that she is virgin even she broke her hymen by mistake
    hey dude just ask her
    There are no ways. She could have broken her hymen in many ways.


    peace

    Is marrying for love a slap in the face of traditional marriage?

    For centuries, people had married those who had been designated by their families. The modern myth of ';romantic love'; didn't develop until the 17th century, and is an affront to the centuries of marriage tradition. Everyone knows that marriage is intended to begin not for such trivial reasons as love, but for the more important reasons of family relationships, money, and transferring property.





    I think we should have a constitutional amendment banning all marriages that are not arranged by families to end this abomination that sickos call ';love';.Is marrying for love a slap in the face of traditional marriage?
    While it is true that in some cultures, ';arranged marriages'; are common, marrying for love has been around a lot longer than the 17th century. Regardless of for love or arranged, marriage is a union of a man and a woman and is a religious institution. I am all for gay couples getting all the same rights, privileges and responsibilities as any other couple, just don't call it marriage or matrimony. In the USA, the Government must not, by the Constitution, define what a marriage is to the Church(es).Is marrying for love a slap in the face of traditional marriage?
    AMEN!!! Homosexuals are not content with their so called ';rights';..they have a much bigger AGENDA..and that is prosecuting anyone who OFFENDS THEM with this 'hate speech' ..seriously..they are sick and twisted and just plain scary.
    I think we should maintain the traditional marriage due to unexpected pregnancy
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    How do you make marriage better?

    I know, I know marriage is great. I know it is! My husband and I have had a lot of difficulties, but we seem to be making it alot better now. I'm just wondering if anyone has tips on having a better marriage.How do you make marriage better?
    Open lines of communication, honesty, don't be quick to be offended if something is said that you don't like, always remember what made you fall in love with your partner and never go to bed mad.How do you make marriage better?
    Respect each other! I cannot stress this enough. Yes, love, honesty, communication and all that other stuff is extremely important. I'm not downplaying it at all. But if you don't respect each other, none of that other stuff will be enough to make the marriage last. By respect, I mean, don't insult each other, call each other names or make comments just to make the other person angry. Always be considerate of your spouse and treat him or her as an equal.
    The longer you are together the closer you become. Working through those difficulties you talked about, help to bring you closer and makes your marriage stronger. Taking time for each other, date night, cuddling together, and talking about the future and your dreams can make it better.
    I would say the best way to make your marriage better, even if it is great, is to always rediscover your partner. husbands and wife's tend to grow use to one another and may at times do or say things that they wouldn't do or say had it been in the beginning of the marriage. Also sometimes us wife's get so use to our husbands that we tend to forget about our appearances and become normal housewife's in the sense of we never dress up for our husbands. The best way to make things better is to treat each other, the way you would treat one another, in the beginning of your relationship. you should grow together as well, a lot of marriages consist of husbands going out on men's nights and the wife's going out on ladies nights. That is the biggest no-no. If they need to meet more people they should rather go out together and meet other husbands %26amp; wife's together so that it is mutually beneficial to each one. When it comes to difficulties, the best way to solve it is communication. And you shouldn't try and Communicate in the heat of an argument. When you and your partner is sitting at home and it may seem like there's nothing to talk about, that's the time to communicate about the things you'd like to change or rearrange or just plainly things that might get you worked up. Also when communicating keep in mind that its just communicating and not a time to pass blame...





    I personally believe that any man and woman who decides to get married can be happily married, because if both are willing to put in a 100% and if both focus more on their partner than themselves they will keep each other happy. If both partners make it their challenge in life, to fulfill their partners needs, they will have a lasting, happy and succesful marriage.
    Have you ever seen the movie Fireproof? Omgosh, awesome movie. There's a book they use in the movie called Love Dare. You can buy it at any Christian bookstore and probably Wal-Mart. It's a day by day book and each day gives you a different task to do for your spouse. My parents did it and they really liked it. And you should watch the movie too! It's so sweet!
    try to keep talking, stay open %26amp; honest. don't get easily offended, don't be a suspicious person....





    try to make him happy, %26amp; hopefully he will do the same... marriage now seems more like a board game than marriage.
    laugh together but dont be afraid to cry together too. Keep open lines of communication and dont lose yourself.
    spend alone time together. go out on dates. share a secret with him. ask him to do the same.

    Why love evaporates after marriage with the realities and tests that life brings.?

    Married life can be very frustrating.


    In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens.


    In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens.


    In the third year, they both speak and the neighbors listen.Why love evaporates after marriage with the realities and tests that life brings.?
    why does a child lose interest in a toy after a few days but cries and cries and does everything needed to get the toy before the event?





    The process of achieving something is always more important than the end gain. Once the objective is achieved, a person loses interest or loses the level of appreciation for it. Same with a relationship: we try very hard to create new relationships by being nice, polite, considerate . Once we know that the relationship( like the child's toy) is exclusively ours for the asking, we lose interest and look for another relationship to conquer or boost our ego.


    In marriage,if each spouse treats other as equal, treats each day as a new relationship as if the next day there is threat of breaking the relationship - This will succeed .


    Any possessive, ego boosting, selfish or superior attitude relationship is bound to be unhappy .


    The secret in every relationship is to keep on giving, giving, giving.. unconditionallyWhy love evaporates after marriage with the realities and tests that life brings.?
    If your marriage is based on sexual attraction, economic security and/or the desire to be like everyone else, you can expect love to evaporate.





    Never marry a person you can't respect, or who who doesn't respect you. Marry a person you are first of all friends with. You may not agree on everything, you may have different tastes or hobbies, but with mutual respect and understanding love lasts a lifetime.





    I've been married for 26 years and still love my spouse. There have been hard times, but we work together to win through instead of competing. We are equals, not master and servant. Loving someone means wanting the best for them and doing what you can to achieve that, while treating them with compassion and respect.
    its because it seems so fun right up until after the honeymoon, and then your social skills start to ';evaporate'; because nobody gives a ****, you can still pork your wife at the end of the day. Which in turn makes your wife pissed off because she has to put up with this lazy excuse for a person who has lost their sense of freedom and therefore you both end up hating each other because you have to do everything together day in and day out. it seems like a great idea at first doesnt it? I havent been married yet and i dont plan on it. OH YEA i havent even begun to start on why you shouldnt have children.
    the inference we can draw, is there was no true love .


    passions and infatuation only existed before marriage.


    true love can not be evaporate or destroyed by any challenges thrown by life even after marriage.


    love should be unconditional and we should not anticipate any thing like sandalwood tree.


    edit.


    Freud and his wife faced several economic, political, psychological problems, but they never quarreled, except only once, that too how to cook mushrooms.
    love does not evaporate but the feeling of being in love, you see that feeling lasts for only 3-4 yrs. that's what science say, but if you truly love the person besides the feeling of being in love then you wouldn't have to argue a lot or not agree with each other because you understand him or her an sometimes you compromise and not be selfish. And you try to bring the feelings back over and over. Marriage is not for everyone and if you only rely on bliss, good sex or happiness of being in love then the foundation would not stand strong enough to last. So when problems arise people starts to annoy their neighbors.
    Love never evaporates. Love endures. Infatuation and passion evaporate. If two people can't reconcile the vows of their marriage together, it is largely due to each protecting and projecting their own ego with too little consideration for the other one.





    Love. You got to give it up to get it. And to give it up a person must first learn to tame his or her ego. My people say you must tame coyote. Throughout history others have taught: you must slay the dragon - or defeat the devil. Taming coyote is a lot less traumatic. And if you achieve that, you have rendered your darkside component impotent - without risk or damage to your spirit.





    To tame coyote you will need a productive dream. We need to mentor young people into seeking their highest and best dream. With that, coyote tames herself/himself - and you free your highest and best self to share and contribute your highest and best dream and productivity with your tribe and circle.





    ^__^





    ..
    I like your little proverb.


    My grandmother used to say that in every romantic relationship, one person loves more than the other one does.


    In the early days they will both deny this, but later it becomes apparent that one is quicker to forgive, more selfless, more tolerant than the other.


    This contributes to a bad end eventually. The one who loves less will do something to sabotage the relationship, in spite of the fact that he or she is basking in a high-quality love; the situation cannot be maintained.
    Keeping the flame burning in a marriage is hard work. This requires many things but most importantly, love that is true.


    We must build on a steadfast foundation with truth and respect.


    We must remain diligently focused, being careful not taking anything or anyone for granted.


    We must have a healthy and positive imagination, desire and ingenuity to maintain a strong, loving and fun relationship.


    We should stand together in faith. A family who prays together, stays together.





    Your words are so true, yet funny! Thank you! :D
    There is a difference between love and romance.





    Romance is fake, just a lot of air, it's given as a gift to inspire a love relationship.





    Love, is only aquired after giving of yourself to another person, romance was given at the beginning to show the person what he has to work for to reach.





    Love isn't an istant gratification thing- you've gotta work for it.
    haha,


    it's a funny serious joke,


    hope not true for you,





    the reason why love evaporates is,, before marriage each one of u do not live together n have a chance to hide your weaknesses and show only ur best qualities, but after marriage ,, no escape,, u have to show ur real truth to ur spouse,,


    so, the amount of love evaporated depends on how much close ur reality is to that image of ur's whom ur partner loved before marriage,,
    Yes it happens.. it's all becoz of expectations..





    But one can regain all the love back if they are most understanding, adapting to the culture, understanding responsiblities and commitments....





    Have a happy life:D


    Ur's †•Ðøñ•†
    a woman is like a city in the eyes of the man, a natural born conqueror; and after conquering the city, who wants to stay in a ruin?
    Well, it means that ';love'; you're talking about was lust and temporary romance. And that fades away very quickly, like a buzz from a cheap alcoholic drink leaving you with a headache.
    lmao! I am not married but these are amazing thoughts.. I was always taught that a STRONG foundation in christ with both people is truly what makes a marriage sucessful. Thats what i want.
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  • What should i do if my girlfriend wants to wait until marriage?

    i totally respect her opinion and if she is stuck on being abstinent then ill suck it up and move on but i have needs too and i just want to know what the chances are she changes her mind and how long will that take?What should i do if my girlfriend wants to wait until marriage?
    She might never change her mind. It's possible that she will stick it out and wait until marriage. Is that something you can't get over?





    If you respect her opinion and care about her and she means a lot to you, then like you said: suck it up and wait it out.What should i do if my girlfriend wants to wait until marriage?
    Sex isn't a ';need'; dear, no one dies from not having it. However, if it's that important to you then move on (I would). Don't try to coerce her into changing her mind or hope she'll change it...she'll just end up with regrets then and it'll likely cause your relationship to end regardless.





    Let her know you respect her decision but you don't share it.
    if you like her then you'll wait for her. if you dont want to wait then that means you dont like her. in other words if you want to be with a woman who will have sex with you before you get married to her then find a woman like that. this woman doesnt want to either get over it or find someone else
    Since you're only in it for the sex, you might as well move on now; so this girl can find a guy who genuinely cares for her. Clearly, you don't and she certainly deserves better.
    If it's really important to you then I think you should reconsider your relationship as you are bound to have a lot of differences. Even if she gives in to you, she's not going to forget that.
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    Respect her decision and get over it. Don't ever pressure her. Don't even bring it up.

    Has anyone had a marriage at shaker village in harrodsburg ky?

    My fiance and myself are looking for a place to get married in or near Harrodsburg, KY. Any comments or suggestions on other places would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.Has anyone had a marriage at shaker village in harrodsburg ky?
    My son was married at Cumberland Falls last October. It was absolutely beautiful.

    How can I find marriage records in Arizona?

    This is public information, the Clark County marriage records in Nevada are a cinch to look up. But when I try to look for marriage records for a county in Arizona, its all pay sitesHow can I find marriage records in Arizona?
    Try searching using this site http://www.web-detective.com/index1.aspx鈥?/a> it surely give you true information you need.How can I find marriage records in Arizona?
    Arizona doesn't post marriage records online. The only way you can obtain records is either to pay online or go to the county courthouse and pull the records.
    north carolina is the same

    Do you really need a lawyer for green card application through marriage?

    I'm an international student (Out of status now because of skipping this fall semester)..I'm about to marry my girlfriend and we both love each other a lot..But the thing is I'm a bit tight in money right now and I'm a bit scared about this whole process too..


    What if I make one minor mistake and the whole thing goes down? But, I've been reading a lot of information on the procedures and still I'm not sure what should I do??


    Is it more wise to have a lawyer?Do you really need a lawyer for green card application through marriage?
    Not really. Visit this website:





    www.immigrate2us.net





    Most people here had not use a lawyer at all.





    Good LuckDo you really need a lawyer for green card application through marriage?
    If you can understand this site you do not need a lawyer





    If you cannot you do ..lawyer fees about $2-3K





    Please do not marry if you cannot afford it ...


    it will end in disaster better to go home ..get your act together and more money ..
    If you are out of status, it's advisable to consult or even hire an immigration lawyer to help to prepare a proper application package. Remember, if you are out of status, it can make you removable.
    A lawyer might help so you get on the right track for obtaining a green card.. so why not?

    How can I keep the fire burning in my 33 year marriage?

    My spouse has a hernia in his groin area I believe it causes him discomfort when we have sex. He won't admit it and continues to do things to try to arouse me. I don't get aroused the way I used to and I now believe it may be a problem with both of us. I know I am gorng thru post menopause but I do still want to have sex I don't want him to feel I am pushing him away although I believe he does. Please give me guidence to get our groove back.How can I keep the fire burning in my 33 year marriage?
    Get that hernia fixed.How can I keep the fire burning in my 33 year marriage?
    Well there are different ways to approach this. Im not sure how open yall are about discussing sex. Can you share fantasies that yall may have. Role playing is one form. Something out of character is another. Then allot of couples who have been married so many years look into alternative lifestyles. Or what some call swinging. Bringing in another couple or a third party. The most important thing first off is communication. We can give you suggestions but your husband can give you the straight and narrow answer.
    That's wonderful that he still wants to please you. You need to do everything possible to respond, so that your husband knows that you still desire him. Get some help with those issues you are having, he seems to be okay with whatever is going on with him. Don't make it your issue until he says it's an issue for him.
    How about trying something from your earlier years? Rent a hotel room? Spice it up? Let him know you still want him just like you did before. I know you will be sensitive to his hernia (real or not real) and he will appreciate that..Take it slow but be sensual.
    i think he needs to get the hernia removed. it can get worse before better. plus, askmen.com is really good to read on sex although we are women. haha it is short and sweet and to the point.
    If there is a will for both of you ,can continue .Just get an operation at your convenience makes the thing more smooth .Best of luck .
    lite you're self on fire and leave us alone.
    themarriagebed.com has a TON of info on this...check their forums too.





    good luck though, sorry to hear it :/






    Do I need to change my surname after marriage? Is it copulsory by Hindu marriage act?

    I need this Information for my fresh passport.I'm confused cause I dont want to change my name but I dont want to go against law.Do I need to change my surname after marriage? Is it copulsory by Hindu marriage act?
    Changing the surname after marriage is personal decision not legal compulsion either under the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955 or for that reasons any other matrimonial enactment in India. Secondly, you can continue to carry on the same name in your new passport too nothing illegal in this %26amp; just add the name of your husband as you will have to change your marital status in the new passport for that the Regional Passport Officer would like you to attach the Marriage Certificate that is issued by the Marriage officer/registrar after getting this marriage registered with such officer, simple marriage certificate issued by the priest/temple etc won't be sufficient for this purpose. Just to give a personal touch to this answer of mine as I鈥檓 always told by many that my answers are very legalistic, my wife still carries her original name in her passport even after 25years of our Hindu Marriage only my name was added as her husband after our marriage by submitting our marriage certificate issued by the Sub-registrar of marriages under the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955.Do I need to change my surname after marriage? Is it copulsory by Hindu marriage act?
    it depends upon u because it don't matter what is your surname it is all for identity if your married then how will people know that u are married
    there is no such compulsion as far as the hindu marriage act is concerned. it is purely a tradition going on for ages. if is purely your choice and the final decision is yours, or may be in consultation with your husband if ha has no ego hassles.
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  • Can you repair your marriage after your spouse finds out you had phone sex?

    It's not me but someone very close to me. He found out his wife had phone sex w/his best friend. They have been together 19 years married for 13 years and he says the marriage is over because he can't trust her anymore.Can you repair your marriage after your spouse finds out you had phone sex?
    Yes. Guys tend to take awhile to come to a conclusion. Guys usually with enough time get over it.


    Most all women will forgive it just takes time. Key thing is for the guy NOT to apologize.Can you repair your marriage after your spouse finds out you had phone sex?
    Something like that can be very disrespectful and show betrayel to the faithfullness of the spouse. It is up to them to figure out what they want to do to rectify the situation. If he feels he can't trust her, then he can't, though if they work on things and make sure she doesn't do it again and distances herself from situations that could be tempting then things can work out.





    That is a personal marital situation only them 2 can discuss and take care of, no real reason to be asking or finding info regarding it/them.
    I think it can be repaired. The best bud has to go, though, if he's to keep the wife. There's something going on with the marriage and it needs to be figured out and worked on, along with the trust that needs rebuilding. I could get over it eventually, I think, if I caught my husband doing the same thing. I'd be pissed and there would have to rules but I think I could.
    Repairing any relationship takes two people who are equally committed to making it work. It doesn't really matter what happened (phone sex, cheating, etc) as long as both people want to move forward.





    If the husband is ready to end it...it might be too late.
    Can you repair your marriage after your spouse finds out you had phone sex?





    NO. They went outside the marriage for intimate emotional / sexual support. Stick a fork in it - that marriage, and mine if my spouse was doing that, would be DONE.
    You can but whos to say where that could have led
    Yes, but you have to go through the phone company and use an operator.





    LMAO...phone sex....are you serious?
    eww, sorry but only whacks have phone sex.
    No especially if it was with the best friend.
    Yes but it does take a while and eating a lot of crow.
    After that long I don't know. It was his best friend. I would be super pissed if I caught my hubna ddoing that with my friend. It may even be over.
    with his best friend that's a double whammy. but guy's have a more time with this then women. women will forgive easier
    kinda like an affair and hes treating it that way

    Discuss the extent to which the status of those cohabiting outside marriage ?

    Which has been recognised by the conferring of legal right.Discuss the extent to which the status of those cohabiting outside marriage ?
    Is this a college essay question? If so, I think you need to do your own research. If it's not an essay question then we need more information as to what you mean. Legal rights of cohabiting couples varies depending in which country/state you reside, how long the couple has been together, whether they have children together and whether the couple is same-sex.Discuss the extent to which the status of those cohabiting outside marriage ?
    Me neither.
    ??


    there are no legal rights when you co habitate



    I have no idea what you're asking.

    How does your open marriage work?

    I am in an open marriage and if any one else is i would like to know how yours work and what ur partner thinks about it.How does your open marriage work?
    SO YOU ARE A TROLL.... AND ADULTERER





    great story... tell readers digest.How does your open marriage work?
    Okay, I'm not married *yet* and I'm definitely not in an open relationship but I do know a couple of couples who are. Pretty much the only couple I know that has a successful (so far) open marriage is because they have rules. Something like only one weekend a month or something like that and there is only one or two other couples that they *interact* with. If either spouse feels uncomfortable about something then it is prohibited and that is ';absolutely no kissing on the mouth';. I personally could never do it, but whatever floats your boat. The other two couples I know have issues with insecurity and inadequacy due to the fact that the spouse is sleeping with someone else.
    It works like this........


    You let your husband f other women and your husband lets you f other men. Thats how it works.


    I have an exclusive marriage and I don't see the point in being married if you are going to whore around on each other, yes....its whoring around even if the other person knows about it!
    Since ';open'; violates the concept of marriage, open marriages never work for very long.


    (yeah, never. as in never)
    It doesn't work.
    it will never work.....Neverrrrr


    it will fun for a while but u cant call that a marriage,
    Wow. Interesting. Where can I find a new wife that enjoys such things?

    What rights will Gay Marriage take away from Heterosexual couples?

    I've seen this argument many times as an argument against Gay Marriage, but I have never, ever seen specifically which rights Gay Marriage would take away from Heterosexual couples. Can anyone enlighten me?


    .What rights will Gay Marriage take away from Heterosexual couples?
    I don't know the rights... however it diminishes the legitimacy of a true marriage between a man and woman. Once homosexuals are allowed to legally marry... what's the next step. Man and animal? If you believe this is ludicrous then what do you think people 40 or 50 years ago thought of the possibility of a same sex marriage? In 40 or 50 years from now after the lines have been completely blurred... Do you fido take Nancy to be your non-species partner? Bark BarkWhat rights will Gay Marriage take away from Heterosexual couples?
    It would just make them more equal.





    And homophobes are afraid of being equal with gays, they prefer to obsess over this marriage thing so that they can feel above by having a right that a gay couple doesn't and thus make it easier for them to judge gay people as a lower group.





    The answer below me is comparing gay marriage to bestiality. Unfortunately what the gays want is to marry another human being, that doesn't compare to a dog or any other animal. He is now comparing 2 different species... its the typical argument from a neurotic homophobe that has nothing better to argue than the slippery slope effect.





    FYI... we also have the first black man as president, does that mean next on our list will be a dog as president? thats exactly how silly this guys argument below me is.
    absolutely. heres the top 10 reasons gay marriage should be illegal





    01) Being gay is not natural. Real Americans always reject unnatural things like eyeglasses, polyester, and air conditioning.





    02) Gay marriage will encourage people to be gay, in the same way that hanging around tall people will make you tall.





    03) Legalizing gay marriage will open the door to all kinds of crazy behavior. People may even wish to marry their pets because a dog has legal standing and can sign a marriage contract.





    04) Straight marriage has been around a long time and hasn鈥檛 changed at all like many of the principles on which this great country was founded; women are still property, blacks still can鈥檛 marry whites, and divorce is still illegal.





    05) Straight marriage will be less meaningful if gay marriage were allowed; the sanctity of marriages like Britney Spears鈥?55-hour just-for-fun marriage would be destroyed.








    06) Straight marriages are valid because they produce children. Gay couples, infertile couples, and old people shouldn鈥檛 be allowed to marry because our orphanages aren鈥檛 full yet, and the world needs more children.





    07) Obviously gay parents will raise gay children, since straight parents only raise straight children.





    08) Gay marriage is not supported by religion. In a theocracy like ours, the values of one religion are imposed on the entire country. That鈥檚 why we have only one religion in America.





    09) Children can never succeed without a male and a female role model at home. That鈥檚 why we as a society expressly forbid single parents to raise children.





    10) Gay marriage will change the foundation of society; we could never adapt to new social norms. Just like we haven鈥檛 adapted to cars, the service-sector economy, or longer life spans.





    it doesnt take any rights away from heterosexual couples. some people are just stupid and afraid
    It is not about rights is it about what we teach our children. I don't want my children to learn and accept it. I should not have to tolerate something I find unacceptable

    Is your belief in marriage stronger than the love you have for your spouse or the reverse?

    A lot of posts here has to do with people cheating in their marriages. I was just curious if most married couples share the same beliefs. If they do, why is the divorce rate so high? If they don't, why did they get married in the first place?





    The Other Woman.Is your belief in marriage stronger than the love you have for your spouse or the reverse?
    Because they dont talk about their goals and expectations before getting married.Is your belief in marriage stronger than the love you have for your spouse or the reverse?
    Human couples seem to be most attracted to their opposite. Marriage ultimately causes ';merging'; of the two souls. When people feel they are getting sucked into a ';funnel of love'; where they will pick up traits of their opposite, they often get scared... those opposite traits are what you are afraid of. So, they get divorced because their fears drive them to all kinds of problems.

    Is your belief in marriage stronger than the love you have for your spouse or the reverse?

    A lot of posts here has to do with people cheating in their marriages. I was just curious if most married couples share the same beliefs. If they do, why is the divorce rate so high? If they don't, why did they get married in the first place?





    The Other Woman.Is your belief in marriage stronger than the love you have for your spouse or the reverse?
    Because they dont talk about their goals and expectations before getting married.Is your belief in marriage stronger than the love you have for your spouse or the reverse?
    Human couples seem to be most attracted to their opposite. Marriage ultimately causes ';merging'; of the two souls. When people feel they are getting sucked into a ';funnel of love'; where they will pick up traits of their opposite, they often get scared... those opposite traits are what you are afraid of. So, they get divorced because their fears drive them to all kinds of problems.
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  • Would you enter a marriage contract for just a specific period of time?

    I wish there were marriage contracts where people can get married for a specific period of time. When the period is over, both partners can part ways. Never to see each other again


    What do you think?Would you enter a marriage contract for just a specific period of time?
    Nothing says you must marry... why bother?Would you enter a marriage contract for just a specific period of time?
    I would say you do not understand human nature or marriage; marriage is a vow that two consenting adults make to each other to forsake all others til death do you part; the longer you stay with someone, the more likely you will form an unbeatable bond; why do you think there are so many 'messy divorces'? I would agree with you, if you would see the majority of such situations end amicably, or indifferent; the fact that most end w/hostility, proves that people become emotionally attached to their partners;





    Marriage is more than a contract; it is a covenant; it is something more than the two even know within themselves; it is a promise made before God.





    Why do people die soon after their spouse dies? because these relationships create an incredible bond; they are not meant to be broken; most people who are honest, may say they are 'glad' to be divorced, carry a big wound; they felt like a failure, or broken hearted, some even wished that it didn't happen. Think again; we are a monogomous race; most of the world believes in monogamy; mate for life.
    well people enter in marriage so that both can help each other and be there for them in good health and bad, in financial good times as well as bad and everything in between.





    remember the vows one takes?





    there are there for a reason.





    maybe you should understand what marriage really is..
    I think it defeats the purpose of marriage, if you're going into it with a possibility of it not lasting already in your head. I'm separated right now, and even if it doesn't work out, I went into it thinking that it would!
    What the hell's the point of marriage then? Marriage is for love and to bring a couple together forever.
    What you are talking about if living together or getting a divorce, it is not a marriage.
    It is called getting a divorce.
    it is called dating
    I think it doesn't make any sense.

    How does your open marriage work?

    I am in an open marriage and if any one else is i would like to know how yours work and what ur partner thinks about it.How does your open marriage work?
    SO YOU ARE A TROLL.... AND ADULTERER





    great story... tell readers digest.How does your open marriage work?
    Okay, I'm not married *yet* and I'm definitely not in an open relationship but I do know a couple of couples who are. Pretty much the only couple I know that has a successful (so far) open marriage is because they have rules. Something like only one weekend a month or something like that and there is only one or two other couples that they *interact* with. If either spouse feels uncomfortable about something then it is prohibited and that is ';absolutely no kissing on the mouth';. I personally could never do it, but whatever floats your boat. The other two couples I know have issues with insecurity and inadequacy due to the fact that the spouse is sleeping with someone else.
    It works like this........


    You let your husband f other women and your husband lets you f other men. Thats how it works.


    I have an exclusive marriage and I don't see the point in being married if you are going to whore around on each other, yes....its whoring around even if the other person knows about it!
    Since ';open'; violates the concept of marriage, open marriages never work for very long.


    (yeah, never. as in never)
    It doesn't work.
    it will never work.....Neverrrrr


    it will fun for a while but u cant call that a marriage,
    Wow. Interesting. Where can I find a new wife that enjoys such things?