In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens.
In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens.
In the third year, they both speak and the neighbors listen.Why love evaporates after marriage with the realities and tests that life brings.?
why does a child lose interest in a toy after a few days but cries and cries and does everything needed to get the toy before the event?
The process of achieving something is always more important than the end gain. Once the objective is achieved, a person loses interest or loses the level of appreciation for it. Same with a relationship: we try very hard to create new relationships by being nice, polite, considerate . Once we know that the relationship( like the child's toy) is exclusively ours for the asking, we lose interest and look for another relationship to conquer or boost our ego.
In marriage,if each spouse treats other as equal, treats each day as a new relationship as if the next day there is threat of breaking the relationship - This will succeed .
Any possessive, ego boosting, selfish or superior attitude relationship is bound to be unhappy .
The secret in every relationship is to keep on giving, giving, giving.. unconditionallyWhy love evaporates after marriage with the realities and tests that life brings.?
If your marriage is based on sexual attraction, economic security and/or the desire to be like everyone else, you can expect love to evaporate.
Never marry a person you can't respect, or who who doesn't respect you. Marry a person you are first of all friends with. You may not agree on everything, you may have different tastes or hobbies, but with mutual respect and understanding love lasts a lifetime.
I've been married for 26 years and still love my spouse. There have been hard times, but we work together to win through instead of competing. We are equals, not master and servant. Loving someone means wanting the best for them and doing what you can to achieve that, while treating them with compassion and respect.
its because it seems so fun right up until after the honeymoon, and then your social skills start to ';evaporate'; because nobody gives a ****, you can still pork your wife at the end of the day. Which in turn makes your wife pissed off because she has to put up with this lazy excuse for a person who has lost their sense of freedom and therefore you both end up hating each other because you have to do everything together day in and day out. it seems like a great idea at first doesnt it? I havent been married yet and i dont plan on it. OH YEA i havent even begun to start on why you shouldnt have children.
the inference we can draw, is there was no true love .
passions and infatuation only existed before marriage.
true love can not be evaporate or destroyed by any challenges thrown by life even after marriage.
love should be unconditional and we should not anticipate any thing like sandalwood tree.
edit.
Freud and his wife faced several economic, political, psychological problems, but they never quarreled, except only once, that too how to cook mushrooms.
love does not evaporate but the feeling of being in love, you see that feeling lasts for only 3-4 yrs. that's what science say, but if you truly love the person besides the feeling of being in love then you wouldn't have to argue a lot or not agree with each other because you understand him or her an sometimes you compromise and not be selfish. And you try to bring the feelings back over and over. Marriage is not for everyone and if you only rely on bliss, good sex or happiness of being in love then the foundation would not stand strong enough to last. So when problems arise people starts to annoy their neighbors.
Love never evaporates. Love endures. Infatuation and passion evaporate. If two people can't reconcile the vows of their marriage together, it is largely due to each protecting and projecting their own ego with too little consideration for the other one.
Love. You got to give it up to get it. And to give it up a person must first learn to tame his or her ego. My people say you must tame coyote. Throughout history others have taught: you must slay the dragon - or defeat the devil. Taming coyote is a lot less traumatic. And if you achieve that, you have rendered your darkside component impotent - without risk or damage to your spirit.
To tame coyote you will need a productive dream. We need to mentor young people into seeking their highest and best dream. With that, coyote tames herself/himself - and you free your highest and best self to share and contribute your highest and best dream and productivity with your tribe and circle.
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I like your little proverb.
My grandmother used to say that in every romantic relationship, one person loves more than the other one does.
In the early days they will both deny this, but later it becomes apparent that one is quicker to forgive, more selfless, more tolerant than the other.
This contributes to a bad end eventually. The one who loves less will do something to sabotage the relationship, in spite of the fact that he or she is basking in a high-quality love; the situation cannot be maintained.
Keeping the flame burning in a marriage is hard work. This requires many things but most importantly, love that is true.
We must build on a steadfast foundation with truth and respect.
We must remain diligently focused, being careful not taking anything or anyone for granted.
We must have a healthy and positive imagination, desire and ingenuity to maintain a strong, loving and fun relationship.
We should stand together in faith. A family who prays together, stays together.
Your words are so true, yet funny! Thank you! :D
There is a difference between love and romance.
Romance is fake, just a lot of air, it's given as a gift to inspire a love relationship.
Love, is only aquired after giving of yourself to another person, romance was given at the beginning to show the person what he has to work for to reach.
Love isn't an istant gratification thing- you've gotta work for it.
haha,
it's a funny serious joke,
hope not true for you,
the reason why love evaporates is,, before marriage each one of u do not live together n have a chance to hide your weaknesses and show only ur best qualities, but after marriage ,, no escape,, u have to show ur real truth to ur spouse,,
so, the amount of love evaporated depends on how much close ur reality is to that image of ur's whom ur partner loved before marriage,,
Yes it happens.. it's all becoz of expectations..
But one can regain all the love back if they are most understanding, adapting to the culture, understanding responsiblities and commitments....
Have a happy life:D
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a woman is like a city in the eyes of the man, a natural born conqueror; and after conquering the city, who wants to stay in a ruin?
Well, it means that ';love'; you're talking about was lust and temporary romance. And that fades away very quickly, like a buzz from a cheap alcoholic drink leaving you with a headache.
lmao! I am not married but these are amazing thoughts.. I was always taught that a STRONG foundation in christ with both people is truly what makes a marriage sucessful. Thats what i want.
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