Why is sex before marriage such a big deal?

I don't see why it is such a big deal if both parties are comfortable with that level of intimacy and use protection. Nobody is getting hurt. Especially if neither party is religious.





I will reserve my loyalty, love, etc for my husband - my virginity is something I didn't really care about. Sex is fun and hurts no one if precautions are taken.





Your thoughts?Why is sex before marriage such a big deal?
See, you are a very level-headed person. But there are a lot of people who are ';saving themselves'; who insist that you are either a virgin or a slut. And that's totally not fair, and therefore people who choose not to wait feel the need to defend themselves. And there are other people who choose not to wait, and call anyone who does wait prudes, etc. And so they feel the need to defend themselves too.


It's basically all about the vicious, endless cycle of close-mindedness.


I agree with you. It's a personal decision, and no decision is any better than the other. Why is sex before marriage such a big deal?
Some religions dont have sex before marriage simply because it says so in the bible, or whatever book they use.





However there are some other good reasons. Your virginity is something that you can only give away once, and once its gone you cant have it back. Many people regret their first time. Also its the ultimate expression of love, and if marriage is simply a piece of paper, what else is there to say that thats the most special person whos ever been in your life?


Also statistically, couples who haven't lived together or slept together first have a way lower divorce rate than others.


And how cool would it be to be able to say to your spouse ';I saved myself for you';?
Nothing is ';wrong'; with it.


However how many unplanned pregnancies are happening, how many sex viruses are there......


This myth of marriage before sex is a way to control the population, mainly are kids from running around like animals breeding with everything that moves, like what is going on.


Protection does not always work, neither does marriage.....





I feel this is for the children out there.
Well there's a lot of reasons why it's a big deal.


You could contract tons of Std's. The protection could just not be effective. If the person dumps you, or just wanted sex in the first place, then that leaves you with a lot of emotional baggage. Purity is something this world is shying away from, and there are many consequences to go along with that. Sex should be saved for marriage. It's what God intended.
because its a religious thing. and our nation was founded on religion so its kind of ingrained in us that sex before marriage is bad.


its also a lot easier to tell someone not to do something than to tell them they can do it but there are certain rules they need to follow to be safe. for some reason, even though theres all kinds of sex education, people are still getting pregnant and spreading STDs. dont get me wrong, im not advocating abstinence by any means. but i think sex before marriage is so taboo because parents dont want their kids getting stds and getting pregnant.
My reasons aren't religious, I've just seen what it's done to the people closest to me and how much it hurt them.


My boyfriend lost his virginity to his first girlfriend when he was young, and she broke up with him soon after to go back to her ex. It still hurts him to this day.


My good friend had the same thing happen to her, except she was the rebound relationship.


I don't want to end up the same way.
everyone has different opinions. i think that sex is something you should do with someone you love, but that doesn't mean you have to be married to them. however, lots of people see their virginity as something special only their husband or wife deserves. also, a lot of people see it as a religious/moral issue
If he doesn't respect you enough to keep sex within marriage and marriage only, then what precedent is there that he'll be faithful? If it's more important for him to get his sexual kicks than for him to permanently establish your relationship, what do you think he's going to pursue when your marriage hits a rough spot?
you want my thoughts? if its only ever between the two ppl then theres nothing to compare it to and it doesnt complicate things. Im not judging anyone thats ever done it, nor holding against them. I'm only suggesting that you cant miss what you dont have.





If you never ate fast foods and someone says ';you dont know what you're missing'; ...... they're absolutely right and it wouldnt bother you.......... but if you ';try before you buy'; all the time, its fact that it can complicate it..... sorry but it is fact
iv just always thought it was just Special and although its not a big deal to me ether me and my husband stopped having sex 2 weeks before the wedding just for the anticipation of the whole thing and it was awesome when we finally meet again and please remember its your choice not mom or dads i hope i helped clueless
I think of it as more than just sex. I think of it as making love and why would you want to make love with someone say who is a friend with benefits? I think the greatest gift one can give someone they love is themselves. I guess I just have more self esteem and dont feel I need to prove anything by sleeping around.
Yes it is a big Deal


Bcz if u have sex before marring then ur *** will became Big and it will become a big deal





and then when u get marriage the deal of ur *** is going 2 be so big that your husband will know that u have a deal





and then u will realize that it is a biog deal
It's not a big deal unless it's important to you.





Personal choice, certainly not a societal standard.
you might get pregnant and then the other guy usually dumps you


and that means you have to take care of the baby yourself...


Watch Juno.
it isnt, just another excuse for religion to suck the fun out of everything, its personal opinion and I agree with you.
Apart from religious reasons, ';saving it'; can make it more meaningful when you finally do. just a thought, I don't disagree or agree personally with sex before marriage
Most of the time because parents want their children safe, and don't want their child pregnant before they're safely in another persons' hands.
Depends ! Casual encounters are not on the same level as intimacy between people who are really close. You can't be close to a whole bunch of people can you ?
religion, that's what it is, that's why society makes it a big deal
its nice that someone would wait until being your spouse to loose their virginity and it can have meaning.





it has been symbolic and meaningful
I agree with you, but having sex with only your husband is a very romantic concept. Just not -that- important.
I agree with you.
I agree with you 100%