I don't see why it is such a big deal if both parties are comfortable with that level of intimacy and use protection. Nobody is getting hurt. Especially if neither party is religious.
I will reserve my loyalty, love, etc for my husband - my virginity is something I didn't really care about. Sex is fun and hurts no one if precautions are taken.
Your thoughts?Why is sex before marriage such a big deal?
See, you are a very level-headed person. But there are a lot of people who are ';saving themselves'; who insist that you are either a virgin or a slut. And that's totally not fair, and therefore people who choose not to wait feel the need to defend themselves. And there are other people who choose not to wait, and call anyone who does wait prudes, etc. And so they feel the need to defend themselves too.
It's basically all about the vicious, endless cycle of close-mindedness.
I agree with you. It's a personal decision, and no decision is any better than the other. Why is sex before marriage such a big deal?
Some religions dont have sex before marriage simply because it says so in the bible, or whatever book they use.
However there are some other good reasons. Your virginity is something that you can only give away once, and once its gone you cant have it back. Many people regret their first time. Also its the ultimate expression of love, and if marriage is simply a piece of paper, what else is there to say that thats the most special person whos ever been in your life?
Also statistically, couples who haven't lived together or slept together first have a way lower divorce rate than others.
And how cool would it be to be able to say to your spouse ';I saved myself for you';?
Nothing is ';wrong'; with it.
However how many unplanned pregnancies are happening, how many sex viruses are there......
This myth of marriage before sex is a way to control the population, mainly are kids from running around like animals breeding with everything that moves, like what is going on.
Protection does not always work, neither does marriage.....
I feel this is for the children out there.
Well there's a lot of reasons why it's a big deal.
You could contract tons of Std's. The protection could just not be effective. If the person dumps you, or just wanted sex in the first place, then that leaves you with a lot of emotional baggage. Purity is something this world is shying away from, and there are many consequences to go along with that. Sex should be saved for marriage. It's what God intended.
because its a religious thing. and our nation was founded on religion so its kind of ingrained in us that sex before marriage is bad.
its also a lot easier to tell someone not to do something than to tell them they can do it but there are certain rules they need to follow to be safe. for some reason, even though theres all kinds of sex education, people are still getting pregnant and spreading STDs. dont get me wrong, im not advocating abstinence by any means. but i think sex before marriage is so taboo because parents dont want their kids getting stds and getting pregnant.
My reasons aren't religious, I've just seen what it's done to the people closest to me and how much it hurt them.
My boyfriend lost his virginity to his first girlfriend when he was young, and she broke up with him soon after to go back to her ex. It still hurts him to this day.
My good friend had the same thing happen to her, except she was the rebound relationship.
I don't want to end up the same way.
everyone has different opinions. i think that sex is something you should do with someone you love, but that doesn't mean you have to be married to them. however, lots of people see their virginity as something special only their husband or wife deserves. also, a lot of people see it as a religious/moral issue
If he doesn't respect you enough to keep sex within marriage and marriage only, then what precedent is there that he'll be faithful? If it's more important for him to get his sexual kicks than for him to permanently establish your relationship, what do you think he's going to pursue when your marriage hits a rough spot?
you want my thoughts? if its only ever between the two ppl then theres nothing to compare it to and it doesnt complicate things. Im not judging anyone thats ever done it, nor holding against them. I'm only suggesting that you cant miss what you dont have.
If you never ate fast foods and someone says ';you dont know what you're missing'; ...... they're absolutely right and it wouldnt bother you.......... but if you ';try before you buy'; all the time, its fact that it can complicate it..... sorry but it is fact
iv just always thought it was just Special and although its not a big deal to me ether me and my husband stopped having sex 2 weeks before the wedding just for the anticipation of the whole thing and it was awesome when we finally meet again and please remember its your choice not mom or dads i hope i helped clueless
I think of it as more than just sex. I think of it as making love and why would you want to make love with someone say who is a friend with benefits? I think the greatest gift one can give someone they love is themselves. I guess I just have more self esteem and dont feel I need to prove anything by sleeping around.
Yes it is a big Deal
Bcz if u have sex before marring then ur *** will became Big and it will become a big deal
and then when u get marriage the deal of ur *** is going 2 be so big that your husband will know that u have a deal
and then u will realize that it is a biog deal
It's not a big deal unless it's important to you.
Personal choice, certainly not a societal standard.
you might get pregnant and then the other guy usually dumps you
and that means you have to take care of the baby yourself...
Watch Juno.
it isnt, just another excuse for religion to suck the fun out of everything, its personal opinion and I agree with you.
Apart from religious reasons, ';saving it'; can make it more meaningful when you finally do. just a thought, I don't disagree or agree personally with sex before marriage
Most of the time because parents want their children safe, and don't want their child pregnant before they're safely in another persons' hands.
Depends ! Casual encounters are not on the same level as intimacy between people who are really close. You can't be close to a whole bunch of people can you ?
religion, that's what it is, that's why society makes it a big deal
its nice that someone would wait until being your spouse to loose their virginity and it can have meaning.
it has been symbolic and meaningful
I agree with you, but having sex with only your husband is a very romantic concept. Just not -that- important.
I agree with you.
I agree with you 100%
Friday, November 25, 2011
How do I add the spice and romance back into my marriage?
I've been married a little over a year. We now have a 4-month old baby boy and everything is great! But where did the romance go?! Our lives are busier now, but what are some simple things I can do to light his fire again? I love him and I don't want to lose the special connection we have.How do I add the spice and romance back into my marriage?
good you caught this early and congrats on your baby. go to lovingyou.com 4 good romantic ideas to ';spice it up';How do I add the spice and romance back into my marriage?
awe darlin there is a lot you can do. He loves you but he is probably tired and so are you. a new born can take a lot out of both of you. If you want to you can always get yourself a few items to wear that are sexy, and finding a reliable babysitter once in a while would probably benefit you both as well. Right now i would suggest a family member you both trust with your baby. you can try new things sexually with each other you have not before if there is anything. You could watch sexy movies together. explore fantasies. Put some fantasies of yours in a hat and his and pick one. mix em up first lol and now and then try one out. You can look through magazines like penthouse and others and book mark pages that have things on it you would like to try, leave it in the bathroom for hubby to read later let him know, this way you don't have to voice what you want if you are shy but yet he still gets to know what it is you want until you get more comfortable talking to him about your fantasies and him to you about his. Toys can be fun as well, he might like playing with you with one just to warm you up for him. Role play is fun too!! MAKE SURE ANY FANTASIES YOU BOTH HAVE ARE SAFE! You should set up a safe word for either of you to say in case either of you decide its not what you want to do, you don't feel safe anymore or it makes you uncomfortable. Hope some of this helps hun. There is so much you can do if you just sit back and think about it. you know him better than we do, bet you know what he wants from you. Have fun and good luck!!!
God I wish I knew! The only thing I could suggest is making sure you have a date night once a month.I know it's hard but you need some time to connect. My husband and I don't really have an opportunitly to get out but we have a chance to ';go out'; and have fun within our home. We watch a movie or have a special meal.
Don't worry It's called maturity. (And Responsibility). Communication is key.
There are great materials out there. On DYSTR Satellite TV There is a program Jimmy %26amp; Karen Evans or Google it they have materials for a marriage made in heaven literally.
After all the evening things are done and it is about time for bed, do something special. Surprise him with a bubble bath with candles and soft romantic music. Climb in there with him and give him a bath.
My husband melts when I do that for him.
HAPPENS TO EVERYONE, don't worry there are many ways to light up the fire. everyone has their own tricks, I like to play naughty secretary %26amp; mean boss. Not everything has to be dirty but it helps my relationship a LOT.
Babysitter, at least 1 night a week. I have seen to many people stop being a couple and just become parents. Alone time time for the two of you is very, very important. Take time for each other.
When the baby is asleep at night offer to have sex with him in the backyard or in the shower. LIttle things like that will definitely spice up your sex life.
make a ';date night'; with him. Get a babysitter to keep baby at his/her house!
It will never come back.cosmetics brands
good you caught this early and congrats on your baby. go to lovingyou.com 4 good romantic ideas to ';spice it up';How do I add the spice and romance back into my marriage?
awe darlin there is a lot you can do. He loves you but he is probably tired and so are you. a new born can take a lot out of both of you. If you want to you can always get yourself a few items to wear that are sexy, and finding a reliable babysitter once in a while would probably benefit you both as well. Right now i would suggest a family member you both trust with your baby. you can try new things sexually with each other you have not before if there is anything. You could watch sexy movies together. explore fantasies. Put some fantasies of yours in a hat and his and pick one. mix em up first lol and now and then try one out. You can look through magazines like penthouse and others and book mark pages that have things on it you would like to try, leave it in the bathroom for hubby to read later let him know, this way you don't have to voice what you want if you are shy but yet he still gets to know what it is you want until you get more comfortable talking to him about your fantasies and him to you about his. Toys can be fun as well, he might like playing with you with one just to warm you up for him. Role play is fun too!! MAKE SURE ANY FANTASIES YOU BOTH HAVE ARE SAFE! You should set up a safe word for either of you to say in case either of you decide its not what you want to do, you don't feel safe anymore or it makes you uncomfortable. Hope some of this helps hun. There is so much you can do if you just sit back and think about it. you know him better than we do, bet you know what he wants from you. Have fun and good luck!!!
God I wish I knew! The only thing I could suggest is making sure you have a date night once a month.I know it's hard but you need some time to connect. My husband and I don't really have an opportunitly to get out but we have a chance to ';go out'; and have fun within our home. We watch a movie or have a special meal.
Don't worry It's called maturity. (And Responsibility). Communication is key.
There are great materials out there. On DYSTR Satellite TV There is a program Jimmy %26amp; Karen Evans or Google it they have materials for a marriage made in heaven literally.
After all the evening things are done and it is about time for bed, do something special. Surprise him with a bubble bath with candles and soft romantic music. Climb in there with him and give him a bath.
My husband melts when I do that for him.
HAPPENS TO EVERYONE, don't worry there are many ways to light up the fire. everyone has their own tricks, I like to play naughty secretary %26amp; mean boss. Not everything has to be dirty but it helps my relationship a LOT.
Babysitter, at least 1 night a week. I have seen to many people stop being a couple and just become parents. Alone time time for the two of you is very, very important. Take time for each other.
When the baby is asleep at night offer to have sex with him in the backyard or in the shower. LIttle things like that will definitely spice up your sex life.
make a ';date night'; with him. Get a babysitter to keep baby at his/her house!
It will never come back.
How should society accomodate the competing interests of proponents of ';gay marriage'; and religious groups?
Will the tax exemption laws be rewritten to exclude orgainzations that discriminate on the basis of sexual preference? Or will some kind of ';balance'; be struck?
What should happen?How should society accomodate the competing interests of proponents of ';gay marriage'; and religious groups?
Since the vast majority of the states have shot down same sex marriages, I doubt anything will change.How should society accomodate the competing interests of proponents of ';gay marriage'; and religious groups?
The goverment should just leave it up to the churches to decide. A church shouldn't have to marry two people when it is against their beliefs. However, if a church doesn't care, then who does is harm? The government can also provide civil unions. Call all court marriages civil unions. That way nobody can argue about the meaning of the word ';marriage';.
Religous principals stating the ';wrong-ness'; of homosexuality PREDATE our nation.... therefore there is NO likelyhood (nor should there be) that charities who UPHOLD the belief that homosexuality is immoral and unhealthy should be punished in ANY way.
WHY on earth do you think they should???
I would have thought that:
... by NOT arresting them
.. by NOT discriminting against them in the work place
.. by NOT discriminating againt them in home-buying
....by offering and recognizing ';civil unions';
... we ALREADY HAD struck a ';balance'; between queer and normal.
Doesn't ';BALANCE'; (be definition) mean each side gives something up? WHAT are the queers offering to give up to find this ';balance';????
Gay people should be able to enter a union like marriage, but not called marriage, because that's a religious thing. That's the fairest compromise. Religious people have no right to decide how others live there lives and gays have no right to enter into a well-defined religious institution.
What should happen?How should society accomodate the competing interests of proponents of ';gay marriage'; and religious groups?
Since the vast majority of the states have shot down same sex marriages, I doubt anything will change.How should society accomodate the competing interests of proponents of ';gay marriage'; and religious groups?
The goverment should just leave it up to the churches to decide. A church shouldn't have to marry two people when it is against their beliefs. However, if a church doesn't care, then who does is harm? The government can also provide civil unions. Call all court marriages civil unions. That way nobody can argue about the meaning of the word ';marriage';.
Religous principals stating the ';wrong-ness'; of homosexuality PREDATE our nation.... therefore there is NO likelyhood (nor should there be) that charities who UPHOLD the belief that homosexuality is immoral and unhealthy should be punished in ANY way.
WHY on earth do you think they should???
I would have thought that:
... by NOT arresting them
.. by NOT discriminting against them in the work place
.. by NOT discriminating againt them in home-buying
....by offering and recognizing ';civil unions';
... we ALREADY HAD struck a ';balance'; between queer and normal.
Doesn't ';BALANCE'; (be definition) mean each side gives something up? WHAT are the queers offering to give up to find this ';balance';????
Gay people should be able to enter a union like marriage, but not called marriage, because that's a religious thing. That's the fairest compromise. Religious people have no right to decide how others live there lives and gays have no right to enter into a well-defined religious institution.
Where to get a marriage license? im going to marry a divorvce man from australia and im from philippines.?
were going to get married but he is a divorce man from australia and im from philippines.were planning to do it here in philippines. were both catholic we will do it in church but i dont know if the church allow it. please help me what will i do?Where to get a marriage license? im going to marry a divorvce man from australia and im from philippines.?
Go to any Australian embassy!Where to get a marriage license? im going to marry a divorvce man from australia and im from philippines.?
As far as I know (i'm catholic) the church won't allow you to get married in the church unless he has an annulment.
This is an american site, sorry!
Go to any Australian embassy!Where to get a marriage license? im going to marry a divorvce man from australia and im from philippines.?
As far as I know (i'm catholic) the church won't allow you to get married in the church unless he has an annulment.
This is an american site, sorry!
Is there a dating site for people who are waiting till marriage to have sex?
I really want to meet a girl who is a virgin because it is important to me that when i get married it is the first time for both of us. I just can't find any girls that are still virgins and in my age range, im 22. Also, don't say church, lol, every girl i've dated from there, well i would rather not talk about it.Is there a dating site for people who are waiting till marriage to have sex?
Are you a virgin and pure? I mean it includes not fooling around also otherwise it would be hypocritical.Is there a dating site for people who are waiting till marriage to have sex?
lol... when u find out let me know, b/c i cant keep these horny losers out of my life and im constantly fighting with them to keep them from trying to get into my bed lol... i dont think they understand that rite now GOD is my husband!!! i thnk i sould stop even trying to date...
So you won't date a girl who has had sex? How very compassionate and christlike...
www.ywam-mn.org
prudedate.com maybe
Are you a virgin and pure? I mean it includes not fooling around also otherwise it would be hypocritical.Is there a dating site for people who are waiting till marriage to have sex?
lol... when u find out let me know, b/c i cant keep these horny losers out of my life and im constantly fighting with them to keep them from trying to get into my bed lol... i dont think they understand that rite now GOD is my husband!!! i thnk i sould stop even trying to date...
So you won't date a girl who has had sex? How very compassionate and christlike...
www.ywam-mn.org
prudedate.com maybe
How should society accomodate the competing interests of proponents of ';gay marriage'; and religious groups?
Will the tax exemption laws be rewritten to exclude orgainzations that discriminate on the basis of sexual preference? Or will some kind of ';balance'; be struck?
What should happen?How should society accomodate the competing interests of proponents of ';gay marriage'; and religious groups?
Since the vast majority of the states have shot down same sex marriages, I doubt anything will change.How should society accomodate the competing interests of proponents of ';gay marriage'; and religious groups?
The goverment should just leave it up to the churches to decide. A church shouldn't have to marry two people when it is against their beliefs. However, if a church doesn't care, then who does is harm? The government can also provide civil unions. Call all court marriages civil unions. That way nobody can argue about the meaning of the word ';marriage';.
Religous principals stating the ';wrong-ness'; of homosexuality PREDATE our nation.... therefore there is NO likelyhood (nor should there be) that charities who UPHOLD the belief that homosexuality is immoral and unhealthy should be punished in ANY way.
WHY on earth do you think they should???
I would have thought that:
... by NOT arresting them
.. by NOT discriminting against them in the work place
.. by NOT discriminating againt them in home-buying
....by offering and recognizing ';civil unions';
... we ALREADY HAD struck a ';balance'; between queer and normal.
Doesn't ';BALANCE'; (be definition) mean each side gives something up? WHAT are the queers offering to give up to find this ';balance';????
Gay people should be able to enter a union like marriage, but not called marriage, because that's a religious thing. That's the fairest compromise. Religious people have no right to decide how others live there lives and gays have no right to enter into a well-defined religious institution.
What should happen?How should society accomodate the competing interests of proponents of ';gay marriage'; and religious groups?
Since the vast majority of the states have shot down same sex marriages, I doubt anything will change.How should society accomodate the competing interests of proponents of ';gay marriage'; and religious groups?
The goverment should just leave it up to the churches to decide. A church shouldn't have to marry two people when it is against their beliefs. However, if a church doesn't care, then who does is harm? The government can also provide civil unions. Call all court marriages civil unions. That way nobody can argue about the meaning of the word ';marriage';.
Religous principals stating the ';wrong-ness'; of homosexuality PREDATE our nation.... therefore there is NO likelyhood (nor should there be) that charities who UPHOLD the belief that homosexuality is immoral and unhealthy should be punished in ANY way.
WHY on earth do you think they should???
I would have thought that:
... by NOT arresting them
.. by NOT discriminting against them in the work place
.. by NOT discriminating againt them in home-buying
....by offering and recognizing ';civil unions';
... we ALREADY HAD struck a ';balance'; between queer and normal.
Doesn't ';BALANCE'; (be definition) mean each side gives something up? WHAT are the queers offering to give up to find this ';balance';????
Gay people should be able to enter a union like marriage, but not called marriage, because that's a religious thing. That's the fairest compromise. Religious people have no right to decide how others live there lives and gays have no right to enter into a well-defined religious institution.
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
Why is sex before marriage such a big deal?
I don't see why it is such a big deal if both parties are comfortable with that level of intimacy and use protection. Nobody is getting hurt. Especially if neither party is religious.
I will reserve my loyalty, love, etc for my husband - my virginity is something I didn't really care about. Sex is fun and hurts no one if precautions are taken.
Your thoughts?Why is sex before marriage such a big deal?
See, you are a very level-headed person. But there are a lot of people who are ';saving themselves'; who insist that you are either a virgin or a ****. And that's totally not fair, and therefore people who choose not to wait feel the need to defend themselves. And there are other people who choose not to wait, and call anyone who does wait prudes, etc. And so they feel the need to defend themselves too.
It's basically all about the vicious, endless cycle of close-mindedness.
I agree with you. It's a personal decision, and no decision is any better than the other. Why is sex before marriage such a big deal?
Some religions dont have sex before marriage simply because it says so in the bible, or whatever book they use.
However there are some other good reasons. Your virginity is something that you can only give away once, and once its gone you cant have it back. Many people regret their first time. Also its the ultimate expression of love, and if marriage is simply a piece of paper, what else is there to say that thats the most special person whos ever been in your life?
Also statistically, couples who haven't lived together or slept together first have a way lower divorce rate than others.
And how cool would it be to be able to say to your spouse ';I saved myself for you';?
Nothing is ';wrong'; with it.
However how many unplanned pregnancies are happening, how many sex viruses are there......
This myth of marriage before sex is a way to control the population, mainly are kids from running around like animals breeding with everything that moves, like what is going on.
Protection does not always work, neither does marriage.....
I feel this is for the children out there.
Well there's a lot of reasons why it's a big deal.
You could contract tons of Std's. The protection could just not be effective. If the person dumps you, or just wanted sex in the first place, then that leaves you with a lot of emotional baggage. Purity is something this world is shying away from, and there are many consequences to go along with that. Sex should be saved for marriage. It's what God intended.
because its a religious thing. and our nation was founded on religion so its kind of ingrained in us that sex before marriage is bad.
its also a lot easier to tell someone not to do something than to tell them they can do it but there are certain rules they need to follow to be safe. for some reason, even though theres all kinds of sex education, people are still getting pregnant and spreading STDs. dont get me wrong, im not advocating abstinence by any means. but i think sex before marriage is so taboo because parents dont want their kids getting stds and getting pregnant.
My reasons aren't religious, I've just seen what it's done to the people closest to me and how much it hurt them.
My boyfriend lost his virginity to his first girlfriend when he was young, and she broke up with him soon after to go back to her ex. It still hurts him to this day.
My good friend had the same thing happen to her, except she was the rebound relationship.
I don't want to end up the same way.
everyone has different opinions. i think that sex is something you should do with someone you love, but that doesn't mean you have to be married to them. however, lots of people see their virginity as something special only their husband or wife deserves. also, a lot of people see it as a religious/moral issue
If he doesn't respect you enough to keep sex within marriage and marriage only, then what precedent is there that he'll be faithful? If it's more important for him to get his sexual kicks than for him to permanently establish your relationship, what do you think he's going to pursue when your marriage hits a rough spot?
you want my thoughts? if its only ever between the two ppl then theres nothing to compare it to and it doesnt complicate things. Im not judging anyone thats ever done it, nor holding against them. I'm only suggesting that you cant miss what you dont have.
If you never ate fast foods and someone says ';you dont know what you're missing'; ...... they're absolutely right and it wouldnt bother you.......... but if you ';try before you buy'; all the time, its fact that it can complicate it..... sorry but it is fact
iv just always thought it was just Special and although its not a big deal to me ether me and my husband stopped having sex 2 weeks before the wedding just for the anticipation of the whole thing and it was awesome when we finally meet again and please remember its your choice not mom or dads i hope i helped clueless
I think of it as more than just sex. I think of it as making love and why would you want to make love with someone say who is a friend with benefits? I think the greatest gift one can give someone they love is themselves. I guess I just have more self esteem and dont feel I need to prove anything by sleeping around.
Yes it is a big Deal
Bcz if u have sex before marring then ur *** will became Big and it will become a big deal
and then when u get marriage the deal of ur *** is going 2 be so big that your husband will know that u have a deal
and then u will realize that it is a biog deal
It's not a big deal unless it's important to you.
Personal choice, certainly not a societal standard.
you might get pregnant and then the other guy usually dumps you
and that means you have to take care of the baby yourself...
Watch Juno.
it isnt, just another excuse for religion to suck the fun out of everything, its personal opinion and I agree with you.
Apart from religious reasons, ';saving it'; can make it more meaningful when you finally do. just a thought, I don't disagree or agree personally with sex before marriage
Most of the time because parents want their children safe, and don't want their child pregnant before they're safely in another persons' hands.
Depends ! Casual encounters are not on the same level as intimacy between people who are really close. You can't be close to a whole bunch of people can you ?
religion, that's what it is, that's why society makes it a big deal
its nice that someone would wait until being your spouse to loose their virginity and it can have meaning.
it has been symbolic and meaningful
I agree with you, but having sex with only your husband is a very romantic concept. Just not -that- important.
I agree with you.
I agree with you 100%
I will reserve my loyalty, love, etc for my husband - my virginity is something I didn't really care about. Sex is fun and hurts no one if precautions are taken.
Your thoughts?Why is sex before marriage such a big deal?
See, you are a very level-headed person. But there are a lot of people who are ';saving themselves'; who insist that you are either a virgin or a ****. And that's totally not fair, and therefore people who choose not to wait feel the need to defend themselves. And there are other people who choose not to wait, and call anyone who does wait prudes, etc. And so they feel the need to defend themselves too.
It's basically all about the vicious, endless cycle of close-mindedness.
I agree with you. It's a personal decision, and no decision is any better than the other. Why is sex before marriage such a big deal?
Some religions dont have sex before marriage simply because it says so in the bible, or whatever book they use.
However there are some other good reasons. Your virginity is something that you can only give away once, and once its gone you cant have it back. Many people regret their first time. Also its the ultimate expression of love, and if marriage is simply a piece of paper, what else is there to say that thats the most special person whos ever been in your life?
Also statistically, couples who haven't lived together or slept together first have a way lower divorce rate than others.
And how cool would it be to be able to say to your spouse ';I saved myself for you';?
Nothing is ';wrong'; with it.
However how many unplanned pregnancies are happening, how many sex viruses are there......
This myth of marriage before sex is a way to control the population, mainly are kids from running around like animals breeding with everything that moves, like what is going on.
Protection does not always work, neither does marriage.....
I feel this is for the children out there.
Well there's a lot of reasons why it's a big deal.
You could contract tons of Std's. The protection could just not be effective. If the person dumps you, or just wanted sex in the first place, then that leaves you with a lot of emotional baggage. Purity is something this world is shying away from, and there are many consequences to go along with that. Sex should be saved for marriage. It's what God intended.
because its a religious thing. and our nation was founded on religion so its kind of ingrained in us that sex before marriage is bad.
its also a lot easier to tell someone not to do something than to tell them they can do it but there are certain rules they need to follow to be safe. for some reason, even though theres all kinds of sex education, people are still getting pregnant and spreading STDs. dont get me wrong, im not advocating abstinence by any means. but i think sex before marriage is so taboo because parents dont want their kids getting stds and getting pregnant.
My reasons aren't religious, I've just seen what it's done to the people closest to me and how much it hurt them.
My boyfriend lost his virginity to his first girlfriend when he was young, and she broke up with him soon after to go back to her ex. It still hurts him to this day.
My good friend had the same thing happen to her, except she was the rebound relationship.
I don't want to end up the same way.
everyone has different opinions. i think that sex is something you should do with someone you love, but that doesn't mean you have to be married to them. however, lots of people see their virginity as something special only their husband or wife deserves. also, a lot of people see it as a religious/moral issue
If he doesn't respect you enough to keep sex within marriage and marriage only, then what precedent is there that he'll be faithful? If it's more important for him to get his sexual kicks than for him to permanently establish your relationship, what do you think he's going to pursue when your marriage hits a rough spot?
you want my thoughts? if its only ever between the two ppl then theres nothing to compare it to and it doesnt complicate things. Im not judging anyone thats ever done it, nor holding against them. I'm only suggesting that you cant miss what you dont have.
If you never ate fast foods and someone says ';you dont know what you're missing'; ...... they're absolutely right and it wouldnt bother you.......... but if you ';try before you buy'; all the time, its fact that it can complicate it..... sorry but it is fact
iv just always thought it was just Special and although its not a big deal to me ether me and my husband stopped having sex 2 weeks before the wedding just for the anticipation of the whole thing and it was awesome when we finally meet again and please remember its your choice not mom or dads i hope i helped clueless
I think of it as more than just sex. I think of it as making love and why would you want to make love with someone say who is a friend with benefits? I think the greatest gift one can give someone they love is themselves. I guess I just have more self esteem and dont feel I need to prove anything by sleeping around.
Yes it is a big Deal
Bcz if u have sex before marring then ur *** will became Big and it will become a big deal
and then when u get marriage the deal of ur *** is going 2 be so big that your husband will know that u have a deal
and then u will realize that it is a biog deal
It's not a big deal unless it's important to you.
Personal choice, certainly not a societal standard.
you might get pregnant and then the other guy usually dumps you
and that means you have to take care of the baby yourself...
Watch Juno.
it isnt, just another excuse for religion to suck the fun out of everything, its personal opinion and I agree with you.
Apart from religious reasons, ';saving it'; can make it more meaningful when you finally do. just a thought, I don't disagree or agree personally with sex before marriage
Most of the time because parents want their children safe, and don't want their child pregnant before they're safely in another persons' hands.
Depends ! Casual encounters are not on the same level as intimacy between people who are really close. You can't be close to a whole bunch of people can you ?
religion, that's what it is, that's why society makes it a big deal
its nice that someone would wait until being your spouse to loose their virginity and it can have meaning.
it has been symbolic and meaningful
I agree with you, but having sex with only your husband is a very romantic concept. Just not -that- important.
I agree with you.
I agree with you 100%
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